Kate Motaung

Dating after divorce is a journey of learning to trust again. Once you have reconciled yourself to the understanding that there is life after divorce, you can thrive afterward. Learning to move past the grief of losing a marriage is the first step in dating after divorce. And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. –

Learning about your mental health is hard work. From a spectrum of illnesses to normal thought patterns being negative, the concept of “taking every thought captive” can seem impossible. Since much of what happens in your brain is subconscious, it takes effort to change patterns and habits of negative thinking into healthy thinking. Negative thought patterns can affect your mood, your attitude toward work, and your relationships. Your brain creates ruts and in times of stress will default into

In today’s me-focused culture, the word “boundaries” has become a popular buzzword. Although some may misuse the concept of establishing boundaries in relationships as an excuse for spending less time with someone or committing to fewer responsibilities, real boundaries are not about selfishness or simply carving out “me” time. Boundaries in relationships are actually helpful to both people. Boundaries help each person know where they end and the other person begins. If you’ve thought about boundaries as a luxury

In our continuing series on boundaries, we will discuss when and how to implement appropriate boundaries and how to maintain them. In the previous article on boundaries, we discussed what makes a good boundary. We discussed the difference between a fixed boundary and a flexible boundary. The three most important considerations in creating a boundary include: A boundary must be carefully considered before it’s needed. A boundary must be implemented with clear communication to all parties involved in honoring

Suzie stared at herself in the mirror, slowly running a hand over her hip. She needed to lose a little more. She could see a muffin top forming when she bent over. No problem. She could skip breakfast and lunch today and hit the treadmill tonight. It was going to be a twelve-hour day in the pharmacy, but no matter. She might feel a little tired, but a good run should take care of that. She used to swim

Teen anger is nothing to brush under the rug. Whether your teen is throwing his or her smartphone at a wall when frustrated that an app isn't working, or screaming when he or she doesn’t get his or her way, teenagers with uncontrollable anger are bound to be in serious trouble. While some are verbal attackers, others can become physically aggressive. If they don't learn to control their anger, they will have problems in school, relationships, and careers. Although

What is distorted thinking, and how can it affect you? That’s what we want to explore together today. Distorted thinking is something you can overcome with the truth of God’s Word and the help of a Christian counselor. What Is Distorted Thinking? Distorted thinking is any kind of thought process that leads you away from the truth. It can be linked to stress, emotional turmoil, or crises in your life. It can also be a long-term pattern that was

Depression is a complex illness that affects every aspect of a person. It cannot simply be described as a medical problem or an emotional one. Rather, it strikes at the very heart of what it means to be human. Depression was referred to as “melancholia” as far back as the time when Hippocrates the Greek physician was living in 400 B.C. In the Bible, many key characters such as David, Jonah, and Ezekiel describe themselves in a depressed state,

Have you  been wondering, “Do I have ADHD?” You may be having difficulty staying focused and on-task at work or home. You may have tons of energy when starting projects but difficulty finishing them or following through. You might keep misplacing your wallet, keys, or credit card. Your train of thought may often jump off the rails without warning. Perhaps you struggle with procrastination, organizational skills, or time management. These challenges may or may not be signs of ADHD.

Anger is a human emotion that can be triggered by many things such as stress, family problems, financial strain, frustration, depression, etc., and it may be either righteous or sinful. While everyone experiences it from time to time, it is a cause for concern if you indulge in sinful anger which can interfere with your work, personal relationships, peace of mind, and especially your relationship with God. Be angry and yet do not sin; do not let the sun

Abandonment can cause significant issues for adults, even decades after being abandoned by parents or loved ones. When people are traumatized as children, they have emotional wounds left open. Sometimes those emotional wounds are light scratches, while others are gaping open and deeply painful. Examples of abandonment. These wounds are long-lasting and show up in different ways, as in these examples: Samantha Samantha is a thirty-four-year-old who has had a difficult time trusting people. She constantly blames herself for the

For people with anger disorders, severe emotional dysregulation frequently follows feelings of anger. For these people, irritation and frustration can quickly devolve into an all-out rage. However, for most people, anger is a natural emotion that comes and goes without causing much damage or disruption to their lives. It may be difficult to process or express in healthy ways, but anger usually doesn’t lead to intense emotional dysregulation. While different types of anger disorders all present with varied symptoms