• : Author

    With over two decades of professional and pastoral counseling experience, I consider it a great privilege to partner with individuals and couples as they navigate life’s trials and sufferings. In our work together we’ll discern, craft, and pursue your counseling goals, and we’ll lean on God’s Word, the influence of the Holy Spirit, and other proven therapeutic approaches as we go. In my experience, pursuits like these also bring about ample opportunities for real-life change and real growth in understanding, hope, healing, and wholeness.

  • : Curator

    Kate Motaung is the Senior Writer, Editor, and Content Manager for a multi-state company. She is the author of several books including Letters to Grief, 101 Prayers for Comfort in Difficult Times, and A Place to Land: A Story of Longing and Belonging. Kate is also the host of Five Minute Friday, an online writing community that equips and encourages Christian writers, and the owner of Refine Services, a company that offers editing services. She and her South African husband have three young adult children and currently live in West Michigan. Find Kate’s books at katemotaung.com/books.

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