Kate Motaung

This article is the second in a two-part series on the practical steps you can take to find freedom from sexual addiction. If you are reading this, there is a good chance that you, or someone you love, is struggling with unwanted sexual behavior. It is also likely that this has been a problem for some time. It takes a great deal of courage to admit that you are struggling with sexual issues, and even more courage to reach

This article is the first in a two-part series on the practical steps you can take to find freedom from sexual addiction. If you are reading this, there is a good chance that you, or someone you love, is struggling with unwanted sexual behavior. It is also likely that this has been a problem for some time. It takes a great deal of courage to admit that you are struggling with sexual issues, and even more courage to reach

In my work as a Christian counselor, I am often exposed to the challenges that arise in a marriage when a couple is not aware of the importance of boundaries, or have not been taught how to implement them in their relationship. Much of the work that I do with couples includes helping them learn to define and establish healthy boundaries. My own knowledge about boundaries has come through some exceptionally challenging experiences, and from things I have learned

When the language of certain mental disorders becomes commonly used in popular culture, this can produce confusion and result in the improper labeling of individuals and symptoms. This is unfortunate because it stigmatizes these individuals and can lead to a misrepresentation of a real condition. This is often the case with Bipolar Disorder. This is indeed a mood disorder. But Bipolar Disorder does not simply mean that people’s moods go from happy to angry, or even just happy to

This past July, I attended the Johnson-Gottman Summit in Seattle. The Johnson-Gottman summit is a clinical training conference focused on marriage and couples therapy, hosted by couples counseling experts John and Julie Gottman and Sue Johnson. In this article, I would like to share some highlights I gleaned from my experience at the Summit. Introducing the Experts: John & Julie Gottman and Sue Johnson Sue Johnson is one of the main founders of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples,

During college in the 1990s, I first read the little book, Be Good To Each Other, by Lowell and Carol Erdahl. I was struck by how simple the title was. Now, after more experience of life and of my own marriage, I find the title to be quite profound. Striving to “be good” to each other is such a straightforward, kind and loving goal. I like the simple idea of being good to each other on purpose and believing

The holidays can be a stressful time. Even worse, your feelings of anxiety may be heightened by the contrasting gaiety and busyness of those around you. Whether you are trying to get some shopping done, find that recipe that you used last year, or finalize plans with your relatives – this time of the year can feel overwhelming. Confronting Holiday Stress If you are able to understand what causes you stress at this time of year, you will be

This is the second in a two-part series exploring a few basic “dos and don’ts” of marriage. In my previous article, I started with some of the essential “dos” of preparing for marriage— these ideas ranged from identifying your core values to straightening out your finances. In this article, I will continue this list of practical advice to couples, turning my attention to the fundamental don’ts of marriage. Marriage is always a challenging relationship, but preparing yourself can make all

Are you and your family having a hard time communicating? Are there unresolved issues that regularly cause conflict? Are you struggling to set healthy boundaries with your teen? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are not alone. Family conflict is inevitable but not everyone is equipped to deal with it on their own. In my practice I seen many clients who come into my office seeking individual counseling for an issue that really involves the