Kate Motaung

How do I forgive my husband for having an affair? This article is written from the perspective of a woman whose husband has cheated on her. It is certainly not the case that only husbands cheat on their wives. Wives cheat too. Perhaps a second article will be written from the perspective of the cheated-on man. But for now, we look at the issue from the perspective of the woman, whose husband has broken his vow. I suppose I

Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one … and I travel it every day. In my faith journey, I have endeavored for many years to consistently devote myself to the Lord in the morning, before the rest of the day begins. Going on a walk with the Lord as soon as I get up has proven to be just what I needed to help me finally follow through and abide in the Vine (John

We all know how important communication is in parenting. As a parent, you will have to speak to your child about some tough topics. Parents need to guide their children and adolescents as they find their way in life, but this guidance doesn’t always have to take the form of telling them what to do. An important way in which you can mentor your child is by sharing your own life experiences with them. In my previous article, I looked

As a parent, you have probably heard that you should talk about drugs and sex with your children. Humans beings need to be mentored and you are the best person to guide to your child and adolescent through these sorts of topics. But the guidance you provide need not be limited to exceptional occasions. A parent can greatly support a young person’s development through many small conversations on important topics throughout the course of their life. One important tool that

There are numerous ways grief and loss can be experienced. Some of these include: The loss of a loved one, job or financial stability. The desolation of a marriage. A betrayal of trust by someone close to you. The deprivation of freedom – hitting the glass ceiling of personal advancement. Regretting your poor life choices or poor career ambitions. The loss or reduction of mobility due to sickness. My history in counseling has taught me that sorrow comes in

It’s the air.  Proposals and engagement parties, both are the makings of soon to be wedding plans. So many things to do and so little time.  There are halls to book and wedding dresses to consider.  In the 22 years of supporting couples as they prepare for marriage, I have learned a few things.  Through my next two articles, I will explore the basic “dos and don’ts” couples should consider before saying, “I do”.  Most of them should not be surprising,

Pornography is a deeply painful reality. In my experience as a Christian counselor, I have rarely seen a phenomenon that is as destructive to the life of an individual or a marriage as pornography. I have heard countless stories from men describing the immense misery, shame and guilt that their pornography use results in. These men generally know how destructive pornography viewing is. Yet they often struggle to put a stop to such patterns, especially when they reach the level of

A central part of my clinical work involves providing treatment for men who struggle with the painful emotional and relational effects of pornography addiction. At their core, these men want to be successful in life. They want to be sexually pure and emotionally healthy, and they long to have strong marriages. Yet they have become caught up in a pervasive global phenomenon that continues to impact the lives of millions of men every day, and ultimately prevents them from achieving

I work with a lot of married couples as a Marriage and Family Therapist. As I witness my clients seeking to work through conflict, mend the breaches in their relationships, and remain emotionally connected, I am constantly on the lookout for what spouses find most meaningful in helping them to overcome their difficulties and strengthen their relationships. Core Needs in a Marriage When I break down much of what I hear married couples saying in a counselling session, it becomes apparent

It  has been put on my heart to address something I have encountered a lot in my practice recently. Whether clients originally reached out for counseling due to feelings of anxiety, depression, or struggles in a relationship, the common thread I have found is a battle with worthiness. An inability to see or accept one’s own worthiness can lead to anxiety and a lack of peace. My personal and professional exploration into the battle with worthiness began when reading Brené

We all experience times of stress, worry and anxiety. A change in jobs, a move to a new city, the arrival of a new family member, or any other life transition can raise concerns and fears about how we will cope with the future. In my work as a counselor I see anxiety manifest itself physically, emotionally, spiritually and relationally. When anxiety becomes all-consuming it can affect every area of our lives. Signs of Anxiety Disorder Many people wonder whether their anxiety

Many people talk about Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and may even diagnose it in others without truly understanding what it entails. OCD is a disorder that can have chronic consequences for those who suffer from it. In order to avoid the deteriorating consequences that OCD brings, it is most important  to accurately identify the disorder and to seek help. This article will provide a Christian psychologist’s perspective on this disorder, and will give some helpful hints for identifying OCD and seeking