Kate Motaung

Part 4 of a 4-Part Series This is the fourth article in a series on Adult ADHD. The first article explored symptoms people may have with ADHD. The second article discussed the evaluation process and who should conduct the evaluations. The third article explored the importance of “executive function” and what can be done if it is not working well. In this final article in the series, I look at how ADHD affects adult relationships and at what steps

Part 3 of a 4-Part Series on ADHD (Link to Part 1 & Part 2) What is “Executive Function,” how is it related to ADHD, and why is it important? So far in this series, we have explored symptoms people may have with ADHD, the evaluation process, and who should conduct the evaluations. In this third article in the series on Adult ADHD, we will explore what “executive function” is, why it is important, and what can be done if

What does this statement mean? It may mean that you are seeking some helpful communication techniques: how to fight fair, resolve conflict, express wants and needs, etc. But my guess is that both of you feel lonely – desperately lonely. Fear is often the emotion that underlies this loneliness. Our connection with our mate is deeply primal – just like the relationship of a child and parent. Stories about neglected orphans recount their lack of crying and their failure

“I hate my mother and just wish she would die. But I shouldn’t feel like this!” said one of my friends. You’ve watched your mother decline into dementia. She thinks people are stealing from her and trying to kill her. You might even be the one she accuses. Remember, she is so afraid. Instead of reacting with anger or argument, will you create a moment of joy? Perhaps you could pull out a photo album, or give her a

Part 2 of a 4-Part Series on Adult ADHD This is the second article in a four-part series on Adult ADHD. In my previous article, “Adult ADHD – Fact versus Fiction,” I looked at some basic questions that people frequently ask about ADHD. This article continues that discussion by looking at the importance of an evaluation, what to expect, and what it should and should not include. What Does an ADHD Evaluation Involve? When an adult feels that there

For many and various reasons all of us get disappointed from time to time. Maybe you didn’t get the job or the promotion you had your sights on. Your spouse, child, or friend did something that you thought they would never do. Perhaps your visit to the doctor gave you news you were not expecting. Whatever the circumstances, things didn’t turn out as you expected, and now you are disappointed. You prayed about it, meditated on the Scriptures, sought

As a Christian counselor, I am aware of the epidemic of countless individuals who struggle with pornography. Every day, people of all ages are exposed to this evil force. It is extremely enticing and appealing, and selfishly gratifying, although only temporarily so. Yet it is also unavoidably addictive, and so incredibly damaging to our thoughts, lives, families, and society. Pornography is a subtly destructive epidemic, yet it is accepted by the so-called majority as nothing more than an expression

Part 1 of a 4-Part Series This is the first article in a series on Adult ADHD in which I discuss common questions and answers regarding the condition. Over recent years, there has been increased awareness and understanding of ADHD as a developmental condition in children, with better diagnostics and individualized options for intervention and treatment. Many adults with ADHD become aware that they may need an evaluation when their own son or daughter is diagnosed with ADHD, and

In a previous article, I sought to clarify the terms we use in speaking of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in order to help identify the disorder. I also attempted to normalize obsessional thoughts and emphasized the importance of accurately judging intrusive thoughts. In this article, I would like to follow up by outlining how avoidance and safety-seeking behaviors contribute to the vicious cycle of OCD. If you are struggling with what you think might be OCD or something similar, getting as

What is the difference between a little worry and an anxiety disorder? Most of us experience anxiety at some point in time. Not all anxiety is bad. A little extra focus and concern often helps us to complete projects and assignments on time. In other circumstances, anxiety can help us to take action quickly if the situation is threatening. Anxiety is a response to perceived danger or threat. It is a natural state that can, in moderate degree and

No other relationship will play a more important role in shaping your life than your relationship with your spouse. If you are reading this article, you are probably either engaged or seriously considering marriage, and are excited about spending the rest of your life with that special someone. You certainly understand that no other relationship will impact your life more than your relationship with your prospective spouse. Yet many individuals make the crucial decision about marriage when they are

Anxiety is something we all experience from time to time. It is our body’s natural reaction to stressors or stimuli that may be harmful. Anxiety can often be simply an overreaction or an inaccurate appraisal of stimuli. This article provides a Christian counselor’s thoughts on how to accurately understand anxiety and panic. It seeks to offer hope and to suggest treatment that can help individuals to effectively manage anxiety and panic. We React Instantaneously to Danger When you are walking