Kate Motaung

So he said goodbye and you’re left standing all alone. You put on the best mask you knew how to, in order to please his whims, desires, lusts, and so on, much like a performer puts on make-up and gets into character, trying to play the role of a lifetime. Now you are angry, disillusioned and dumbfounded that it wasn’t enough to keep the relationship together. Why not? you ask, still swimming in a sea of stormy, up and

We all know that marriage can have a purpose for our lives. But have you ever wondered if singleness has a purpose for us as well? The Apostle Paul spoke of singleness as a gift. For some, this may be a permanent life situation, but for many, it is merely a stage or season. During that season, many things can be explored, taken advantage of, and accomplished due to the nature of single life. This is indeed a grand

When you say that someone has “attachment issues,” what are you picturing? You’re probably thinking about someone who has trouble with relationships as an adult. They might be overly clingy, afraid the other person is going to leave them or cheat on them. Or, they might push them away as a way to test their loyalty or to get ahead of the fear that they’ll be left eventually no matter what they do. Attachment styles are especially reflected in

Every person on this planet was created as a specialized individual. The same treatment used by one person to combat a mental disorder may not necessarily be the best plan of action for the next person. How do you know if you are suffering from a serious disorder? When should you seek out help? What is the most effective course of action for your specific mental health condition? First, we need to determine if your symptoms warrant treatment. Knowing

My first foray into working in this mental health field involved working in a 12-bed residential facility in California where we would work with clients that suffered from severe mental illness. Our clients most commonly presented with Major Depression, Schizophrenia, Bipolar, or Schizoaffective Disorder. At our facility, clients would get to spend a lot of time in group and individual therapy, and we helped them to gain skills to help them re-integrate once they have become more stable. Right

How would you respond to a friend who just lost her husband in a tragic car accident? How about a mom who, with weeping, delivers her stillborn daughter? Or an elderly man who awakes to find his wife of 50 years has passed, unbeknownst to him, as they slept? We hug. We cry with them. We offer small words of encouragement, rarely believing they are adequate sources of comfort. We organize meals to be sent to the bereaved to

Certain depression symptoms in women are commonly experienced. Can you relate… Do you have nagging, negative, critical, or complaining thoughts? Do you find that things you once enjoyed now strike terror in your heart? Do you struggle with shame? Do you experience low self-worth? Do you feel like you have committed a sin that is beyond the scope of God’s forgiveness? If you can answer yes to any of these questions, you may be experiencing of symptoms of depression.

That sounds like an important question, and one that many of us have asked, often at our moments of deepest anguish. In order to answer this question, however, it is necessary to first ensure we have definitions for the two key words involved: prayer and forgiveness. Prayer is conversation with God. It is the exchange of the soul with God, not in contemplation or meditation, but in direct address to Him. Prayer may be oral or mental, occasional or

In my previous article, I discussed the emotions that often accompany the discovery that your partner is struggling with sexual addiction, as well as defining the trauma that this discovery has likely brought upon you. As a reminder, the word "trauma" originates from a Greek word that means “to wound or to pierce.” Please bear in the mind that someone who is sexually addicted has to meet certain criteria to be diagnosed as such; while someone who has committed

Have you ever felt as if life is too unpredictable? That people can’t be trusted? That little things that use to be mundane and ordinary are now your greatest fear? Does your mind play horrific movie clips of events that have happened in your past? If so, you might be experiencing some of the effects of trauma. Trauma is far too intertwined in the design of our world. With natural disasters, wars, violence, and sin in our domain, trauma

"Do anger disorders really exist?" To answer the titular question posed by this article, we should, in all fairness, acknowledge that the classification of the various forms of mental illness is a human construct – a means to describe a nuanced condition that may or may not actually fit the description perfectly, and may or may not have a treatment solution. So, the short answer is “Yes.” As described in the DSM-5, anger-related disorders most certainly do exist, though

Finding mental health treatment that works for you can feel like a daunting process. So before I go any further, let me say thank you for looking into this and taking steps towards taking care of yourself! There may be stresses going on right now that feel daunting and unmanageable, or perhaps you can’t seem to pull yourself out of this funk that you have been stuck in. Maybe someone in your life has left, be it through death,