• : Author

    Psalms 107:29 tells us, “He caused the storm to be still, So that the waves of the sea were hushed.” If the waves of your life are crashing down around you, come seek shelter in Christian counseling. It saved me when I found myself caught in the storms and it can save you, too. I will work with you to first get your head above water and eventually teach you how to swim with confidence. With Jesus’ help, you can overcome your fears, let go of losses, and grow in God to walk on the water of your faith.

  • : Curator

    Kate Motaung is the Senior Writer, Editor, and Content Manager for a multi-state company. She is the author of several books including Letters to Grief, 101 Prayers for Comfort in Difficult Times, and A Place to Land: A Story of Longing and Belonging. Kate is also the host of Five Minute Friday, an online writing community that equips and encourages Christian writers, and the owner of Refine Services, a company that offers editing services. She and her South African husband have three young adult children and currently live in West Michigan. Find Kate’s books at katemotaung.com/books.

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