The word trauma refers to psychological or physical damage that results from a severely distressing event or experience. Persons suffering from trauma usually experience emotional numbness, anxiety, and a pervasive sense of vulnerability or fear. Trauma that occurs in childhood is likely to resurface as an adult. Very often, a sufferer will re-experience the traumatic event in their psyche, particularly when faced with certain reminders of the event (or triggers). Trauma can severely disrupt a person’s life and result in a cycle of fear, isolation, anger, and despair.
Trauma is caused by exposure to any event or series of events that undermine a person’s sense of safety or security. Common causes of trauma include: mental, physical, sexual, and/or verbal abuse; exposure to war or extreme violence; the death of a loved one; medical conditions; and motor accidents. The severity and duration of trauma depends on a variety of factors particular to the individual sufferer’s experience. When a person struggles to recover from the initial shock of trauma, this can develop into Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Healing and Recovering from Trauma
Trauma recovery is a complex and challenging process that requires time and genuine self-examination. Healing from trauma begins with facing your past and working through emotions you may feel tempted to repress. Most people who have suffered a traumatic event or experience benefit from the help of a professional counselor, who can guide their recovery process using proven therapeutic methods. It is essential to remember that trauma recovery takes time, and every person heals at his or her own pace.
The feelings of distress and vulnerability that result from trauma often impact the ways that he or she relates to others. It is not uncommon for a victim to lash out at loved ones or to withdraw into seclusion. Because trauma destabilizes the victim’s sense of personal safety, he or she may find it difficult to trust others—even those who have been trusted in the past. The relational impact of trauma will vary from person to person, but all victims need a strong support system in place to encourage their healthy recovery.
By David Hodel,
Posted August 16th, 2018
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Emotional abuse is one of those categories that has an incredibly broad spectrum of narrative variety. Therapeutically, you will find as many kinds of emotional abuse as there are patients. They often follow similar themes of parental neglect or denigration, but because we are all wired differently, the impact on us is quite varied.
One person may suffer cutting judgments from a parent and somehow understand they are wrong, and retain a good emotional structure, while another with similar treatment turns inward into self-loathing and despondency, or outward into feeling one down and rage. Our internal structure is a combination of our innate wiring coupled with our responses to traumatic experiences.
How We are Wired
When we are born, we have no sense of self. We experience our mother literally as a breast, the source of our sustenance. When we first experience that we cannot have that breast on demand, we begin to learn that we are not a god, and want to destroy this source of nourishment since we can’t have it when we want it.
As we grow and develop, we begin to understand that the breast is attached to a mother, whose gaze we want to capture, and that this mother can leave us but she always comes back. We need to be seen, known and loved well; to be able to capture the gaze of our mother, but be able to escape it as well when it
By Jennifer Mott,
Posted April 25th, 2018
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Domestic abuse is a topic that has become more prevalent and is becoming more openly discussed, but it is still a difficult topic to talk about, especially if it is about yourself. Domestic abuse is a serious subject and I have found that people tend to suffer alone out of fear of disclosing the abuse. That fear can arise for many reasons.
This article will talk about the more common types of abuse, in which the man is the abuser and the woman is the victim. It is important to know that these roles can be reversed. Men can also be the victims of domestic abuse from their female partner.
As a counselor for domestic abuse, some questions I have been asked are:
If my husband does not hit me, is this really abuse?
He has not laid a hand on me but makes threats and tries to control my life; what is this?
Can we work through and make changes as a couple to restore our relationship?
Whatever that reason may be, I can help you clarify what domestic abuse is, what are the common signs of abuse to watch for, and what you should do about it after having this knowledge.
What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse is a way for a perpetrator (the abuser) to control their partner. That control can be by making threats, instilling fear, physical abuse, and/or controlling behavior in various areas of your life.
Domestic abuse can happen to anybody, anywhere. I have
Am I Having a Nervous Breakdown? 10 Steps to Find Out
By Rachel Mckay,
Posted March 30th, 2018
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The term “nervous breakdown” is often overused and ambiguous. It could mean anything from a bad day and being overwhelmed to a having a psychotic episode.
We often hear of celebrities “going through a nervous breakdown” when there are reports of erratic behavior or a significant change in the way they present themselves, but we may also hear a coworker proclaim “I’m on the verge of a nervous breakdown” when circumstances are particularly chaotic at the workplace.
But what does the phrase “nervous breakdown” actually mean? It is first important to note that it is not a clinical term. A trained clinician will assess for symptoms that may lead to a diagnosis, and there is no “nervous breakdown” diagnosis.
Despite this, “nervous breakdown” is used as a blanket term, often in a context where the details of mental distress are not openly discussed. There is some shared sense of what the term means. If I were to conduct a small survey, it is likely that people generally would agree that a nervous breakdown indicates a point of abnormal psychological distress.
In order to label the change in behavior as abnormal, we must first have a sense of what is the standard behavior. From that point, what we see or experience as the norm is jilted by a “breakdown.”
What Does a Nervous Breakdown Look Like?
So what does a breakdown actually look like? And how can we prevent it? This article will discuss the perception of a