Do you struggle to build satisfying connections with others? Are you unhappy in your friendships, or isolated from your coworkers? Is it difficult for you to trust others? All of us long for fulfilling relationships, but building and maintaining healthy, successful relationships can be difficult—and if you are struggling, you’re not alone. We all face relational issues at some point in our lives. Fortunately, you can always take steps to overcome these issues: learning to negotiate relationships is an acquired skill, and we are here to help.
Some of the most common signs of a problem relationship include: selfishness, insecurity, distrust, negativity, chronic misunderstanding, jealousy, and passive-aggressive behavior. Usually a problem relationship lacks reciprocity, meaning that one person will give more to the relationship than the other. The best measure of relational health is whether both persons involved are happy when they spend time with the other. Ultimately, a problem relationship leaves one or both persons feeling depleted and discontent. If you are stuck in a bad relationship, seek help today.
Successful relationships are founded on a mutual exchange of care, honesty, trust, and respect. In any relationship, conflict is inevitable, and learning to forgive and mend a damaged or broken relationship is an important part of life. The stress of a broken relationship can be debilitating, but if both parties are committed, healing is possible. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, we have seen many wounded relationships restored, and our counselors are passionate about helping you discover relational healing.
Many attitudes can help you build your relationship into something mutually satisfying. One major key is—you each really must to start with yourself. Do you speak encouraging words? Are you friendly? Do you practice love and seek peace in all situations? Often we do not see how our words and actions affect others. These things can add to or take from your connection with your loved ones. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, our counselors are trained to help you work through such relationship issues. Whether you are struggling with a particular relationship or simply want general advice about improving your interpersonal skills, we are here to offer support, encouragement, and guidance. Don’t hesitate–call us today to discover how you can develop lasting, meaningful relationships in your life!
By David Hodel,
Posted August 8th, 2018
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You may have heard that only a small percentage of what you communicate is actually in your words. The look in your eyes, the expression on your face, the shape of your mouth, the tone and timbre of your voice, your body language – all join together in a little symphony of communication when you try to speak to someone else. All this information is coming your direction when someone is trying to communicate with you.
To make matters even more complicated, in addition to receiving all this information, your mind has to comprehend the language, the form, and the idea behind it. Add to this the fact that typically while someone is speaking, we are having possible responses pop up in our minds at the end of every sentence, and it’s amazing anyone ever communicates anything.
When we reach an impasse in our ability to communicate effectively, it is time to call on a professional communication coach to help us navigate those waters. We need a referee.
A Quick Example
Let’s make up a couple, Karen and Bill. They’ve been married a few years, have a couple of young kids, and by mutual agreement, Bill has a day job and Karen runs the household. Karen is having one of those days – kids have been fussy, the check engine light came on, she dropped a full cup of coffee on the floor and got it on her
By Jennifer Mott,
Posted June 27th, 2018
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In the Bible, forgiveness is a Greek word that means, “to let go.” It is the act of granting mercy upon the person who has done something wrong against you.
Forgiveness means you are going to let go of what happened. This does not mean that you agree or condone whatever transpired, but that you are willing to move forward in your life and not carry the negative feelings over what happened.
Forgiveness Bible Verses
Scripture is filled with forgiveness Bible verses and stories about forgiveness. The one thing they all teach us is to forgive one another as we have been forgiven by God.
God forgives on a grand scale. He is the example of what we need to be carrying out in our everyday lives. Therefore, because we have received much grace, “while we were yet sinners Christ died for us,” we are commanded to give that same grace to others (Romans 5:8).
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”~ Ephesians 4:32
When understanding this Scripture, it is also important to talk about grace. In my eyes, grace is forgiveness without consequences. I was sitting in church recently listening to the pastor preach about grace. He spoke about Preston Sprinkle’s definition: “Grace is unconditional acceptance given to an undeserving person by an unobligated giver. It is one-way love” (see work cited below).
By Spencer Fox,
Posted June 12th, 2018
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For most couples, there will be ups and downs in their relationships. While we would love to live in the bliss and infatuation that often accompanies the honeymoon period, we will all at some point have a rough patch.
Relationship satisfaction can look like a roller coaster. Ideally, this would be the most boring roller coaster that is all height without the fall, but usually, there are dips.
First of all, this is normal and not a sign that your relationship is doomed. Secondly, many couples find great success in increasing satisfaction by entering into couple’s therapy.
In the modern world, there are many options for therapy and counseling. Much of the success of therapy comes from the “fit” between the therapist and client(s).
Shopping for therapists is a normal and healthy process to find one whose style works for you. Some will be more directional, others more facilitative of processing emotions.
More recently, online counseling and therapy are becoming options therapists provide. This might be part of the shopping process for you as you begin to assess what your needs and desires are for therapy. Before getting into this distinction, however, it would be good to understand what the process of therapy will look like from either method (online or in person).
What Does Couples Therapy Look Like?
Regardless of whether you’re coming in or participating in couples therapy online, the general structure will look similar. Below I am going to outline what you might expect from