Do you struggle to build satisfying connections with others? Are you unhappy in your friendships, or isolated from your coworkers? Is it difficult for you to trust others? All of us long for fulfilling relationships, but building and maintaining healthy, successful relationships can be difficult—and if you are struggling, you’re not alone. We all face relational issues at some point in our lives. Fortunately, you can always take steps to overcome these issues: learning to negotiate relationships is an acquired skill, and we are here to help.
Some of the most common signs of a problem relationship include: selfishness, insecurity, distrust, negativity, chronic misunderstanding, jealousy, and passive-aggressive behavior. Usually a problem relationship lacks reciprocity, meaning that one person will give more to the relationship than the other. The best measure of relational health is whether both persons involved are happy when they spend time with the other. Ultimately, a problem relationship leaves one or both persons feeling depleted and discontent. If you are stuck in a bad relationship, seek help today.
Successful relationships are founded on a mutual exchange of care, honesty, trust, and respect. In any relationship, conflict is inevitable, and learning to forgive and mend a damaged or broken relationship is an important part of life. The stress of a broken relationship can be debilitating, but if both parties are committed, healing is possible. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, we have seen many wounded relationships restored, and our counselors are passionate about helping you discover relational healing.
Many attitudes can help you build your relationship into something mutually satisfying. One major key is—you each really must to start with yourself. Do you speak encouraging words? Are you friendly? Do you practice love and seek peace in all situations? Often we do not see how our words and actions affect others. These things can add to or take from your connection with your loved ones. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, our counselors are trained to help you work through such relationship issues. Whether you are struggling with a particular relationship or simply want general advice about improving your interpersonal skills, we are here to offer support, encouragement, and guidance. Don’t hesitate–call us today to discover how you can develop lasting, meaningful relationships in your life!
By David Hodel,
Posted August 16th, 2018
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Emotional abuse is one of those categories that has an incredibly broad spectrum of narrative variety. Therapeutically, you will find as many kinds of emotional abuse as there are patients. They often follow similar themes of parental neglect or denigration, but because we are all wired differently, the impact on us is quite varied.
One person may suffer cutting judgments from a parent and somehow understand they are wrong, and retain a good emotional structure, while another with similar treatment turns inward into self-loathing and despondency, or outward into feeling one down and rage. Our internal structure is a combination of our innate wiring coupled with our responses to traumatic experiences.
How We are Wired
When we are born, we have no sense of self. We experience our mother literally as a breast, the source of our sustenance. When we first experience that we cannot have that breast on demand, we begin to learn that we are not a god, and want to destroy this source of nourishment since we can’t have it when we want it.
As we grow and develop, we begin to understand that the breast is attached to a mother, whose gaze we want to capture, and that this mother can leave us but she always comes back. We need to be seen, known and loved well; to be able to capture the gaze of our mother, but be able to escape it as well when it
By David Hodel,
Posted August 8th, 2018
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You may have heard that only a small percentage of what you communicate is actually in your words. The look in your eyes, the expression on your face, the shape of your mouth, the tone and timbre of your voice, your body language – all join together in a little symphony of communication when you try to speak to someone else. All this information is coming your direction when someone is trying to communicate with you.
To make matters even more complicated, in addition to receiving all this information, your mind has to comprehend the language, the form, and the idea behind it. Add to this the fact that typically while someone is speaking, we are having possible responses pop up in our minds at the end of every sentence, and it’s amazing anyone ever communicates anything.
When we reach an impasse in our ability to communicate effectively, it is time to call on a professional communication coach to help us navigate those waters. We need a referee.
A Quick Example
Let’s make up a couple, Karen and Bill. They’ve been married a few years, have a couple of young kids, and by mutual agreement, Bill has a day job and Karen runs the household. Karen is having one of those days – kids have been fussy, the check engine light came on, she dropped a full cup of coffee on the floor and got it on her
By Jennifer Mott,
Posted June 27th, 2018
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In the Bible, forgiveness is a Greek word that means, “to let go.” It is the act of granting mercy upon the person who has done something wrong against you.
Forgiveness means you are going to let go of what happened. This does not mean that you agree or condone whatever transpired, but that you are willing to move forward in your life and not carry the negative feelings over what happened.
Forgiveness Bible Verses
Scripture is filled with forgiveness Bible verses and stories about forgiveness. The one thing they all teach us is to forgive one another as we have been forgiven by God.
God forgives on a grand scale. He is the example of what we need to be carrying out in our everyday lives. Therefore, because we have received much grace, “while we were yet sinners Christ died for us,” we are commanded to give that same grace to others (Romans 5:8).
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”~ Ephesians 4:32
When understanding this Scripture, it is also important to talk about grace. In my eyes, grace is forgiveness without consequences. I was sitting in church recently listening to the pastor preach about grace. He spoke about Preston Sprinkle’s definition: “Grace is unconditional acceptance given to an undeserving person by an unobligated giver. It is one-way love” (see work cited below).