Do you struggle to build satisfying connections with others? Are you unhappy in your friendships, or isolated from your coworkers? Is it difficult for you to trust others? All of us long for fulfilling relationships, but building and maintaining healthy, successful relationships can be difficult—and if you are struggling, you’re not alone. We all face relational issues at some point in our lives. Fortunately, you can always take steps to overcome these issues: learning to negotiate relationships is an acquired skill, and we are here to help.
Some of the most common signs of a problem relationship include: selfishness, insecurity, distrust, negativity, chronic misunderstanding, jealousy, and passive-aggressive behavior. Usually a problem relationship lacks reciprocity, meaning that one person will give more to the relationship than the other. The best measure of relational health is whether both persons involved are happy when they spend time with the other. Ultimately, a problem relationship leaves one or both persons feeling depleted and discontent. If you are stuck in a bad relationship, seek help today.
Successful relationships are founded on a mutual exchange of care, honesty, trust, and respect. In any relationship, conflict is inevitable, and learning to forgive and mend a damaged or broken relationship is an important part of life. The stress of a broken relationship can be debilitating, but if both parties are committed, healing is possible. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, we have seen many wounded relationships restored, and our counselors are passionate about helping you discover relational healing.
Many attitudes can help you build your relationship into something mutually satisfying. One major key is—you each really must to start with yourself. Do you speak encouraging words? Are you friendly? Do you practice love and seek peace in all situations? Often we do not see how our words and actions affect others. These things can add to or take from your connection with your loved ones. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, our counselors are trained to help you work through such relationship issues. Whether you are struggling with a particular relationship or simply want general advice about improving your interpersonal skills, we are here to offer support, encouragement, and guidance. Don’t hesitate–call us today to discover how you can develop lasting, meaningful relationships in your life!
Supporting Your Family And Marriage: Counseling For Comprehensive Care
By David Hodel,
Posted November 15th, 2018
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Many of us go through life more or less on automatic, making the best choices we can based on the available information. It is only natural for us to want things to run as smoothly as possible. If we aren’t naturally prone to worry, it is easy to brush away concerns about physical symptoms as long as they aren’t too disruptive.
We may put off a physical examination, or ignore something that “isn’t that big a deal.” I have heard many people say they hate hospitals. It makes sense, then, that they would be resistant to a check up that might result in a trip to one.
If we can get past that resistance, and develop a healthy approach to our health care, we can make use of what’s available as appropriate and often get results that help us lead healthier happier lives. The very same can be said of mental health care. But even with all the normalization mental health in the media and schools, there is a lot of subliminal resistance to making use of it.
The Stigma Around Family and Marriage Counseling
It’s not surprising that people still have a negative view of mental health care. Forty years ago, a psychiatric hospital was referred to as “the booby hatch,” “bughouse,” and “funny farm” among other names, and I still hear those terms bandied about in social settings.
People with disorders are called “crazy,” “loony,” “nut job,” or “whacko.” Only in a room full
By Maryann Stigen,
Posted November 14th, 2018
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As a counselor, the vast majority of clients I see have either endured or perpetrated some type of emotional abuse throughout their lifetime. Emotional abuse is quite pervasive, and it is a fairly new topic to be discussed as generations prior would not have even considered the effects of their words or actions qualifying as abusive.
I do want to differentiate right away between someone being an emotional abuser, and someone saying or doing emotionally abusive things. An abuser will perpetually hurt, undermine, or seek to gain a manipulative upper hand over others – whereas the majority of people will have the capacity to say or do something that is emotionally abusive in an isolated situation or circumstance without being a habitual abuser.
We have all at some point or another sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, but repenting and seeking reparation for the wrong we have done is key. However, there are types of people who will continually hurt others and destroy intimate connections with people – whether intentional or unintentional – and their behaviors rarely change for the better.
Emotional abuse may take place in a romantic relationship, a parental relationship, among siblings, on the playground at school, in the office at work, in the pews at church, etc. Because humans reside within all of these occupations, dynamics, and settings – the ability to abuse or be abused is not limited to a specific demographic or location.
Improving Your Marriage: Marriage and Family Counseling Together
By Spencer Fox,
Posted October 24th, 2018
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In my work, I see a mix of couples, families, and individuals. It’s rare that a problem exists solely with an individual without any repercussions for the surrounding family. Problems that affect you will affect your family and problems that affect your family will affect you.
A bedrock of your family, your marriage serves as a motor for the family as a whole. If the marriage is healthy, your family usually shows signs of health but when marriage problems arise, they can affect the whole family as well, like a series of ripples in a pond.
The Social Ecology of the Family
Imagine a series of concentric circles. Somewhere near the middle is the circle that represents “you” in your wholeness and entirety. There are few more inside which represent your mind, your body, your body chemistry, and your soul.
Moving outward from the “you circle,” next, we might see your immediate family, your extended family and friends, your neighborhood, your city, your culture, and your country. Like rings of a tree or the ripples on a pond, these circles represent the multiple realms that affect who you are. This series of circles is sometimes called the “social ecology of the family.”
“Social ecology of the family” is a heavily loaded term, so let’s dissect it in reverse. The family is, in this model, the point around which everything else revolves. In Western culture, we tend to place importance on the individual and end up viewing