Have you ever craved a date with pornography more than a date with your partner? Have you fantasized about a porn star while making love with your partner? Do you look forward to being alone so that you can have time to watch porn? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may have an addiction to pornography.
Pornography addiction is treatable with a combination of counseling and group therapy. Sexual addiction clinics provide people a chance to name their addiction, receive professional guidance, and develop accountability within a group of people dealing with the same issues. Faith can also play a central role in your recovery, by connecting with a sense of purpose greater than the instant gratification of pornography.
Addiction to pornography can have a significantly negative impact on one’s relationships. Trust can be destroyed, and intimacy is often compromised. Pornographic addiction will inevitably seep into the fabric of your relationships and slowly destroy them, if allowed to fester and grow. Seeking help from a trained Christian counselor is an important step to take in protecting your relationships from the toxic reach of pornography. Seattle Christian Counseling has a team of dedicated professionals ready to help you move away from pornograhpy and into lasting, successful relationships. Contact a counselor today, and begin your journey back to healthy relationships.
By Maryann Stigen,
Posted August 6th, 2018
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If you’re reading this, you are likely wondering if either you or someone you know is struggling with sex addiction symptoms. In fact, you may still be a skeptic concerning the idea that sexual addiction is even a real thing; if so, I understand that. After all, God created us to be sexual beings with the purpose of us procreating – so how can we possibly do too much of that?
I’m glad you (hypothetically) asked. Perhaps if I phrase this question in a different way, it may illuminate the topic in a different light for you:
If you or someone you know engages in the consumption of alcohol to the extent that it could potentially lead to negative legal, relational, occupational, physical, emotional, or financial consequences – and thoughts of how to obtain that next drink were at the forefront of one’s mind more often than not – wouldn’t we agree that this person may in fact be struggling with an addiction to alcohol?
One might be able to exchange alcohol in this scenario with a drug of choice, or even another behavior of choice such as gambling, to further understand the concept of addiction.
You see, when we have an addiction to something (regardless of what it is) – we get a “fix” of sorts, when it moves from a thought of wanting that thing – to a behavior of actually acquiring or using that thing. Our
By Patricia Lyon,
Posted June 5th, 2017
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This article on help for sexual addition references the book, Ready to Heal, by Kelly McDaniel.
Love and sex addiction is a double bind. If we seek a relationship, which we are all designed to do, we will experience pain. If we then avoid relationships, which seems logical when we’ve been hurt, we will also experience pain – usually the pain of being isolated. When we are lacking healthy role models in our formative years, we may arrive at adulthood without the tools to navigate pain.
With repeated betrayal in relationships, we may end up with some of these feelings:
I am not at “ease” or at peace.
I rarely know a moment of comfort in solitude.
I have difficulty being alone or still.
I have disordered eating, sleeping, and/or spending patterns.
I grow increasingly confused and tired.
I have difficulty trusting people.
I become more isolated while pursuing sex or romance.
I lose interest in friends, hobbies, family, and work.
I can’t seem to identify or live within my value system.
I experience more and more episodes of irritability, rage, and restlessness.
Shame sets in when we can’t seem to free ourselves from choosing destructive relationships. Aligning with this shame of failure may follow secret thoughts (lies) of being a bad person, of agreeing that we are unlovable, of accepting we can’t rely on others, or of equating sexuality with love.
Choosing behaviors (masturbation, sex, drugs, food, alcohol, affairs, etc.) that soothe the pain and
By David Hodel,
Posted March 16th, 2017
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At the emotional root of every addiction is a good desire. We want to be seen, known, and loved well, and when it doesn’t happen, the pain can be intolerable. We want to be free of our stresses and free to enjoy life. Good desires. The problem with addiction is that it masquerades as a solution, masking our symptoms while our condition slowly worsens in the background.
I once heard a pastor say, “Only dead things float down stream.” You’ve got to be swimming at least a little bit just to stay in one place. Addictions are like floatation devices that keep us from having to face our emotional pain and make difficult choices that might actually bring growth and change. Pornography addiction is particularly insidious, because it can seem like a “victimless crime” and it masquerades as bonding to our unconscious mind, while gradually building an addiction to our own neurochemicals. Add to that the guilt and shame which often go along with it, plus the underlying emotional structure driving the behavior, and the dynamics of pornography addiction become a complex puzzle that can take some time and effort to unravel.
Recent studies in neurobiology have shown that thoughts that are repeated actually create stronger neural pathways in our brain. Repetition causes neural pathways to be reinforced. You may have heard the saying, “We are what we repeatedly do.” In a very real, physical sense this is true of the impact of thought and behavior on our brains. We can train