Do you feel that you are living in a way that aligns with your core values? Do you long be a person of strong character who upholds virtue? Throughout life, each of us will face challenges and setbacks that test our strength and these moments can be real opportunities for growth. Being a person of strong character means living by your fundamental values, even in times of trial. Learning what this means can take a lifetime, but our counselors are here to help.
Developing Purpose, Passion and Character
Part of developing a strong character means identifying your values and passions so that you can live with a sense of purpose and meaning. Living with a purpose means having a clear sense of your goals, passions, and desires as well as your strengths and weaknesses. A Christian counselor can help you discern these things by asking probing questions that will help you understand what is most important to you.
Part of personal development involves understanding that we all have a responsibility to care for others in our communities. By learning to tend to other people’s needs, we not only improve our own lives, but we also discover what it means to relate well with others. In other words, developing a generous and compassionate character will have a dramatic and positive impact on your relationships.
Growing in Happiness and Holiness
Our counselors are eager to help you in your journey toward being a person of strong and gracious character full of joy. In Christian counseling, a qualified professional psychotherapist can help you to assess your values, identify areas where growth is desired, and take practical steps toward your personal development. Don’t hold yourself back from being the person you want to be—get in touch today, and set yourself on the path toward becoming your best self!
At Seattle Christian Counseling, we believe that anyone can be a leader and that realizing your leadership potential begins with knowing who you are and what motivates you. Leadership experts agree that character development is an essential aspect of becoming a great leader. People who live according to their values and passions make great leaders because they live with clarity and integrity. They know what they are capable of and they pursue their goals with honesty and transparency.
Common Signs of Codependency: What Should You Look For?
By Maryann Stigen,
Posted March 27th, 2019
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Typically, the first sign that indicates a need for me to investigate possible codependency with a client, is when they introduce themselves to me and describe themselves as “a people pleaser.”
As we continue, I tend to find out that these people have very poor boundaries within their interpersonal relationships.
One of the most prominent researchers into codependency, Melody Beattie, describes codependency like this:
“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.” – Codependent No More, 1992 ed.
Have I lost you with that definition? Stick around and we will elaborate on it later within this article.
Another well known researcher in the area of codependency, Pia Mellody, states that codependents have difficulty in the following areas:
Experiencing inappropriate levels of self-esteem
Setting functional boundaries
Owning and expressing their own reality
Taking care of their adult needs and wants
Experiencing and expressing their reality moderately
Concerning number one above, Mellody goes on to say that “if codependents have any kind of esteem, it is not self-esteem but other-esteem; which is based on external things such as how one looks, how much money they make, who they know, what kind of car they drive, what kind of job they have, how well their children perform, how powerful and important or attractive their spouse is, the degrees they have earned, how well they perform at activities in which others value, etc” (Facing Codependence, p.
What is the Difference Between Coaching and Counseling?
By Carmilla Solomon,
Posted January 17th, 2019
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When I first started my career in counseling, I had never really heard of coaching as a career within mental health. I knew about it in terms of “executive business coaching” and even had read a book on this subject when I started working for American Century Investment Company. Well, I did not like dealing with money and I found that investing money wasn’t something I enjoyed.
I made a career switch and thought I was going to combine my talent for counseling with my HR degree and blaze a path in HR. I very quickly found out my idea was not going to work and thus another career change occurred.
In the end, I wished for some direction or mentorship to help me understand what I was doing or not doing. This is where coaching comes in for many people who have had this same or a similar struggle.
To be clear, I have never branded myself as a career or life coach, only as a mental health provider. But I like the fact that with training and understanding, this is something to add to my skill set in the future.
I like seeing the change in my clients as they find their new stride, passion, and healing. I think, as mental health providers, we can combine our talents into the best of both worlds and offer clients the ability to be coached and healed, and do it all from a Christian worldview.
3 Elements for Everyone to Have in Clear Personal Development Goals
By Spencer Fox,
Posted December 5th, 2018
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“I got through it, I feel fine,
I went to school and did my time,
In a sense I’m out, in a sense I’m free
to be what I want to be.”
– MxPx, “Doing Time”
A child of the 90’s, I grew up on a heavy dose of punk rock and emo music. My favorite band, thanks to my older brother who guided 90 percent of my music interest until I was at least 16, was MxPx. A Christian pop-punk band from my native Washington, they were easy to latch onto.
I remember going to my first concert at 13 to see them, back when cigarettes were still allowed indoors. Luckily, I did not have to convince my mother that the overwhelming aroma of stale smoke and sweat that clung to my clothes after the concert was evidence of any of my own indiscretions. She was there in the back singing along at the top of her lungs herself.
MxPx claimed a major role in forming my teenage philosophies and giving me direction. The first song I ever learned on guitar was “Punk Rawk Show” from their sophomore album Teenage Politics. In short, they were a big part of my life (and I may just be listening to them as I write this today).
As I have grown, my philosophies and beliefs have matured and become more nuanced. However, there is some insight that I believe MxPx can still provide. In the quote above, that final line “to