Most couples enter into marriage with an expectation that the relationship will remain fulfilling for a lifetime. However, all marriages face conflict, and over the years, many couples drift apart. With the added stress of work and family, it’s no wonder that so many find marriage unsatisfying. Eventually, all couples realize that a fulfilling marriage takes work; yet if both partners are dedicated to fostering intimacy, the joys of marriage can be the ultimate reward.
Christian marriage counseling offers couples a wonderful opportunity to develop intimacy by building relational skills that will strengthen their marriage. At Seattle Christian Counseling, we partner with couples to cultivate love, respect, honesty, trust, and integrity in relationships. We use our expertise to encourage couples to understand one another better and develop healthy relational patterns. We have seen many broken or dysfunctional marriages redeemed into strong, vibrant relationships.
Communication Problems & Conflict Resolution
One of the primary causes of marital conflict is breakdown in communication between partners. Even when this is not the cause of problems, conflict resolution in marriage requires both partners to communicate openly and empathetically with each other. With the help of a Christian marriage counselor, you and your spouse can discover new ways to affirm, constructively disagree, and support one another in all of your interactions.
Affairs, Lying, and Broken Trust
Healthy marriages are founded on trust, honesty, respect, and integrity, and violating any of these virtues undermines the relationship. This is especially true in the case of infidelity. The road to relational recovery after an affair is long and difficult. If your marriage has been damaged by infidelity, we urge you to seek the help of a professional Christian marriage counselor. At Seattle Christian Counseling, we can help you and your spouse understand the affair—why it happened, how you can recover, and what you can do to prevent future infidelity.
Building and Repairing Intimacy
Life is full of challenges— – developing a career, raising a family, and losing a loved one, to name a few — – that can prevent partners from putting their relationship first. It can be even more difficult if the relationship itself has been damaged by an affair or similar violation of trust. No matter where you are in your relationship, if you and your partner wish to deepen or repair intimacy, there is hope for growth and healing.
By David Hodel,
Posted August 8th, 2018
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You may have heard that only a small percentage of what you communicate is actually in your words. The look in your eyes, the expression on your face, the shape of your mouth, the tone and timbre of your voice, your body language – all join together in a little symphony of communication when you try to speak to someone else. All this information is coming your direction when someone is trying to communicate with you.
To make matters even more complicated, in addition to receiving all this information, your mind has to comprehend the language, the form, and the idea behind it. Add to this the fact that typically while someone is speaking, we are having possible responses pop up in our minds at the end of every sentence, and it’s amazing anyone ever communicates anything.
When we reach an impasse in our ability to communicate effectively, it is time to call on a professional communication coach to help us navigate those waters. We need a referee.
A Quick Example
Let’s make up a couple, Karen and Bill. They’ve been married a few years, have a couple of young kids, and by mutual agreement, Bill has a day job and Karen runs the household. Karen is having one of those days – kids have been fussy, the check engine light came on, she dropped a full cup of coffee on the floor and got it on her
Divorce Counseling For Couples With Children: 6 Unexpected Benefits
By David Hodel,
Posted August 6th, 2018
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One of the great tragedies in any life is the dissolution of what was supposed to be a lifelong journey. Divorce usually marks the death of shared hopes and dreams and is deeply disruptive to everyone involved. There is a scale of life stressors by someone named Rahe; on this list, divorce is rated second, just after the death of a spouse or child.
The pain and stress of the transition are significant, sometimes enormous, even if the people involved somehow manage to guard against despondency, avoid blame shifting, manage their anger, maintain civility and focus forward toward a more positive “new normal.”
If neither spouse is immovably spiteful or bitter to the point that they no longer have the capacity to have the children’s best interests at heart then this is a situation where a licensed counselor can make a huge difference in helping the couple manage the emotional currents present in the process. If there are children involved, even more so. If the parents are unable to agree to settle things amicably, their lawyers will end up doing it in court.
Divorce Counseling When Children are Involved
What follows is only intended for couples where there is no abuse involved. If one or both parents are abusive, the divorce probably will not be amicable, and if it is, safety measures need to be in place to protect the children, which is beyond the scope of
By Carmilla Solomon,
Posted May 14th, 2018
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Does online couples therapy work? Before I can fully answer this question, let’s first talk a little about what couples therapy is.
A Definition of Online Couples Therapy
By its very nature, the definition of couple’s therapy is a form of mental health counseling used to treat relationship distress, such as poor communication skills, incompatibility or a wide variety of other psychological disorders. Its purpose is to restore functioning to the coupled relationship and address the reasons for the distress in the first place.
There are several different theories of couples-based therapy treatments that have proven to be effective in various forms. According to the Encyclopedia of Mental Disorders (www.minddisorders.com) below are some of the more commonly used models for treating couples.
This is by no means an exhaustive list of all of the different schools of thought related to couples therapy, but just an idea of what types of therapeutic practices your particular therapist might employ.
Traditional behavioral therapy which focuses on behavioral change, communication, and problem-solving.
Psychoanalytic therapy where the focus is on unresolved childhood conflicts with parents and how these are part of the current relationship problems
Emotionally focused therapy that assists couples in learning how to acknowledge and express emotions that are related to their distress
Integrative behavior therapy helping couples to improve behavior exchange and communication; examines problems and interactions that are repetitious that cause marital problems
Cognitive behavioral therapy which helps relationships improve by increasing positive interactions between the ...Read More