Most couples enter into marriage with an expectation that the relationship will remain fulfilling for a lifetime. However, all marriages face conflict, and over the years, many couples drift apart. With the added stress of work and family, it’s no wonder that so many find marriage unsatisfying. Eventually, all couples realize that a fulfilling marriage takes work; yet if both partners are dedicated to fostering intimacy, the joys of marriage can be the ultimate reward.
Christian marriage counseling offers couples a wonderful opportunity to develop intimacy by building relational skills that will strengthen their marriage. At Seattle Christian Counseling, we partner with couples to cultivate love, respect, honesty, trust, and integrity in relationships. We use our expertise to encourage couples to understand one another better and develop healthy relational patterns. We have seen many broken or dysfunctional marriages redeemed into strong, vibrant relationships.
Communication Problems & Conflict Resolution
One of the primary causes of marital conflict is breakdown in communication between partners. Even when this is not the cause of problems, conflict resolution in marriage requires both partners to communicate openly and empathetically with each other. With the help of a Christian marriage counselor, you and your spouse can discover new ways to affirm, constructively disagree, and support one another in all of your interactions.
Affairs, Lying, and Broken Trust
Healthy marriages are founded on trust, honesty, respect, and integrity, and violating any of these virtues undermines the relationship. This is especially true in the case of infidelity. The road to relational recovery after an affair is long and difficult. If your marriage has been damaged by infidelity, we urge you to seek the help of a professional Christian marriage counselor. At Seattle Christian Counseling, we can help you and your spouse understand the affair—why it happened, how you can recover, and what you can do to prevent future infidelity.
Building and Repairing Intimacy
Life is full of challenges— – developing a career, raising a family, and losing a loved one, to name a few — – that can prevent partners from putting their relationship first. It can be even more difficult if the relationship itself has been damaged by an affair or similar violation of trust. No matter where you are in your relationship, if you and your partner wish to deepen or repair intimacy, there is hope for growth and healing.
By Matthew Antolick,
Posted May 15th, 2019
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Surviving an affair and recovering from infidelity is a very unique struggle. Those who have been through this traumatic event will tell you there is really nothing quite like it. One of my callings as a counselor is to help people on all sides as they work through both the causes and the effects after the affair — the pain, separation, confusion, grief, and conflict that can result.
Throughout our sessions together, I will emphasize the importance of building trust. This is because trust is widely considered to be one of the most important foundations of a “healthy relationship” — so much so that without trust, there can hardly be any kind of relationship at all apart from an adversarial one.
Infidelity Damages Trust
First let’s talk about trust. Trust is like a glass sculpture. It takes time and careful skill to make. It can also be smashed into hundreds of pieces with the momentary strike of a hammer. It can be rebuilt, but it takes time. The shards of broken trust can easily cut and cause bleeding. Broken trust hurts, and it is nasty stuff to wade through without guidance.
It is difficult to rebuild trust, especially in the aftermath of infidelity. It is possible, but often without skilled guidance of a counselor, those “quicksand moments” when everything starts sinking the moment one partner starts talking, will continue to happen. It can feel like the same old painful argument goes nowhere, over and over
Premarital Counseling: Why Should We Seek Counseling Before We Say I Do?
By Maryann Stigen,
Posted May 6th, 2019
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Congratulations! You’re getting married! This is surely one of the most exciting seasons of your life and for good reason. You are about to embark on a journey with your best friend, and the person you envision growing old with.
A great adventure is about to begin! However, just like any adventure in life can be better prepared for, rather than just showing up and seeing how it all plays out, so too, can you take steps right now to ensure a smoother journey ahead for you and your beloved.
I am sure you have a million questions, and unfortunately, most of those will go unanswered until you actually see those events in your mind playing out in real time. There are a few things that no one can teach you or provide a “How To” manual for, but thankfully, God is always present, He is all-knowing, and He promises to never leave you or forsake you – whether the season of life be favorable or challenging to your faith and relationship.
What are some of the things that do not come with an instruction manual? In-laws. We all hope and pray that we will be blessed with the ideal in-laws, don’t we? In our hearts, we yearn for marriage to consist of adoption into a second family; an enhancement to our lives, harmonious relationships that are effortless and present, etc.
I hope and pray this is a reality for you! However, unfortunately, this will
How to Speak the Truth in Love Within Your Marriage
By Matthew Antolick,
Posted March 21st, 2019
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Learning how to speak the truth in love isn’t always easy. I can think of many times I’ve sold out truth for the sake “love,” or the other way around. That is, I’ve spoken the truth, but not in a very loving way. They needed to hear it after all, and I’m not afraid to speak the truth. Someone has to do it.
So I tell my wife what I think about how she’s handling the stress of getting ready for having people over. I tell her how to fix it. “Just stop worrying, trust Jesus.” It’s the truth! It’s a solution to a problem! And it makes things worse. I remembered to speak the “truth,” but I forgot to be loving.
Or, maybe I see something that is true – I see my spouse struggling and it looks like I may have a solution, or a way of helping. But it didn’t go well the last time I tried to jump in and say something. So instead of taking a risk, I don’t say anything.
Maybe it works out okay. Maybe tension mounts inside of me, until I say it in an unloving way. Or maybe I just believe that you don’t upset the people you love, so I just keep it to myself. I take, for the moment, the easy path.
It is easy to sell out being truthful for the sake of being “loving.” It is also easy to sell out being