If you find yourself wanting to stay in bed all day, or feeling a general sense of sadness for reasons you can't identify, you may be depressed. If you feel yourself slumping into a dark mood that you can't seem to shake, you may be depressed. The best thing to do is call a counselor today, who can help you identify your symptoms and determine the best course of action. Don't waste any time getting your life back.
Common Types and Causes for Depression
Genetics often play a role in a person's susceptability to depression. If a parent or other close relative suffered from depression, it is possible the trait could have been passed along to you. Traumatic life events can be the cause of depression, such as the death of a loved one, abuse, financial problems, or any other form of extreme stress. Hormonal changes can also be a cause. Depression has many triggers, not all of which are the same for every person. When it comes to types of depression, there are three. Major depression affects our ability to sleep, eat, work or play. Dysthmia is the second type of depression, which is less severe, resulting in a general malaise and unhappiness but is not paralyzing of one's ability to function. Bi-polar disorder is the third form of depression, which is characterized by large swings in one's mood.
There is no doubt that depression can take a toll on a person's relationships. Communication is often strained in the midst of a bout with depression, resulting in reduced connectivity between the depressed and those wanting to help. It's important to not let the affect of the depression on a person's mood or general attitude be a reflection to you of their true self. Your unwavering support will do much good, whether or not you feel appreciated by the person as they make their way through their feelings.
Depression is an isolating condition—both those who suffer from depression and those who care about a sufferer find themselves cut off from the ones they love. Navigating relationships through the trials of depression can be difficult, but it is essential for the sufferer to maintain a supportive network of family and friends. Healthy and compassionate communication between the sufferer and their loved ones can play a crucial role in the process of recovery.
By Dr Gary Bell,
Posted January 18th, 2019
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Depression is one of the most solvable diagnoses in Mental Health. Primarily, it is driven by the thought disorder of having expectations that are far too high and unreasonable for yourself or others. However, it has genetic components that can be overwhelming also.
Symptoms of Depression
Depression can show itself as:
having a lack of contact with self
feelings of apathy
a constant nagging feeling
seeking comfort (through something like food or shopping)
being frequently moody
experiencing chronic sleepiness
having a lack of concentration
. . . and so many other symptoms. In young children, depression is usually manifested in the form of regular irritability.
Preferences Versus Expectations
To get a handle on what drives depression, we need to make our expectations conscious by writing them down and challenging them. Expectations come with a lot of weighted emotions that get in our way. (For example, if I expect a kiss goodbye when my wife is preoccupied, then I will probably dwell on the hurt and question her love.) If a prefer a kiss, then no harm done.
Preferences let loose of our need to control outcomes. They accept the basic concept of life that we are not perfect and cannot control others. We influence through preferences, which is all we are entitled. We no longer have to make decisions by how we feel.
The other key is to be a good listener and validate others. “I understand,”
By Patricia Lyon,
Posted December 20th, 2018
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Some women live their adult lives carrying deep emotional wounds inflicted by their mothers during childhood. At times, this burden can result in depression if not dealt with properly. In this article, I will share some suggestions for working through your “mother wound” as an adult daughter.
The Truth About You
You deserved to be loved.
Your mother didn’t or couldn’t give you the warmth, safety, support, or feeling of being cherished that you needed so much.
Mothers influence our beliefs about ourselves in a foundational way. Who she “says” we are becomes who we say we are. We might be amazing, stupid, special, capable, clumsy, selfish — just because she said so.
Negative feedback creates pain in us. We may take on self-defeating false messages that seem true based on our circumstances.
“You don’t know how to be loving.”
“No one cares what you think.”
“If you were a better person, the abuse/trouble/shame never would have happened.”
“You are my whole life.”
“I love you more than your father.”
“It’s your job to take care of me.”
“You have no right to disagree.”
Lies and Truth
How do we separate them?
As you work through these exercises, be sure to have a support person with whom you can cry, shout in anger, grieve, receive feedback.
Try this exercise. Make a sheet with two columns. Put “Lie” at the top of one column and “Truth” at the top of the other.
Coping with Depression: Even Bible Heroes Had to Cope with Depression
By Lanny Harris,
Posted November 26th, 2018
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I was a pastor for 23 years, and during that time I often heard parishioners talking about mental health issues like depression. The view was often narrow and uninformed. I heard such statements as, “If you have enough faith, you will not be depressed,” “You just need to trust God,” and many other choice comments.
I remember while dealing with my own depression, a friend and mentor told me to “get over it and quit sinning.” He apparently believed that depression was a sin.
There are a lot of well-meaning Christians who do not understand mental health issues like depression. They do not understand that depression is an illness. Most of these people have never dealt with depression themselves. If they had, I doubt they would ever say such things.
Sadly, there is a lot of ignorance in the church about mental health issues. I took in what my friend had said to me and felt guilty for feeling the way I did. For quite a while, I believed him. When I finally went to a counselor myself, I learned that depression is an illness and not a sin. I also learned that people don’t often get over depression by themselves. Once I learned this, I was able to dismiss such unwise counsel.
Through my own struggle with bouts of depression, I have done some research in the Bible. I wanted to see what Scripture had to say about depression. Technically, the Bible does not