While it is completely normal to experience angst during the teen years, the stresses of being a teenager should never prevent your child–or your family–from flourishing. The teen years are all about self-discovery and testing boundaries in order to shape identity. This can put a real strain on even the healthiest family relationships. If your teen is struggling and you are finding it difficult to cope with the challenges at home, we encourage you to seek help.
Christian counseling is a wonderful opportunity for your teenager to ask serious questions, develop healthy habits, and discover strengths and weaknesses. A Christian counselor can provide a safe, non-judgmental ear and compassionate, balanced perspective to help your teenager process the challenges of growing into early adulthood. A Christian counselor can also help your teen learn to build healthy peer relationships while modeling positive interpersonal skills in the client-counselor relationship. Ultimately, Christian counseling for teens provides support for teens and their families as they try to navigate these difficult years.
Common Issues Facing Today's Teens
Being a teenager has never been easy–and the personal, academic, and social demands facing today’s teens are perhaps greater than ever before. Some of the issues teenagers wrestle with haven’t really changed: peer pressure, sex and relationships, and academic burdens have always been, and continue to be, among most teenagers’ main preoccupations. But many of these concerns are more acute than ever, and with the rise of eating disorders, gun violence, substance abuse, and cyber bullying, it’s no wonder today’s teens are stressed.
Warning Signs in Teens
Your teen may be reluctant to talk to you about the problems he or she is facing. While this can make it difficult to discern what is a real concern and what is normal teenage behavior, there are ways to tell the difference. Common warning signs include a sudden change in social behavior, extreme shifts in mood, increase or decrease in appetite, and poor academic performance. But this is not a comprehensive list of warning signs.
Divorce Counseling For Couples With Children: 6 Unexpected Benefits
By David Hodel,
Posted August 6th, 2018
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One of the great tragedies in any life is the dissolution of what was supposed to be a lifelong journey. Divorce usually marks the death of shared hopes and dreams and is deeply disruptive to everyone involved. There is a scale of life stressors by someone named Rahe; on this list, divorce is rated second, just after the death of a spouse or child.
The pain and stress of the transition are significant, sometimes enormous, even if the people involved somehow manage to guard against despondency, avoid blame shifting, manage their anger, maintain civility and focus forward toward a more positive “new normal.”
If neither spouse is immovably spiteful or bitter to the point that they no longer have the capacity to have the children’s best interests at heart then this is a situation where a licensed counselor can make a huge difference in helping the couple manage the emotional currents present in the process. If there are children involved, even more so. If the parents are unable to agree to settle things amicably, their lawyers will end up doing it in court.
Divorce Counseling When Children are Involved
What follows is only intended for couples where there is no abuse involved. If one or both parents are abusive, the divorce probably will not be amicable, and if it is, safety measures need to be in place to protect the children, which is beyond the scope of
By Angela Hanford,
Posted April 25th, 2018
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Do you know someone who intentionally cuts or burns themselves? Chances are that you do know someone who has engaged in self-harm behaviors, since it has been estimated that 14% to 17% of adolescents and young adults have reported engaging in self-injurious behavior (Whitlock, Eckenrode, & Silverman, 2006).
In one study of community adolescents, researchers discovered that 46.6% of participants reported engaging in non-suicidal self-injury (Lloyd-Richardson, Perrine, Dierker, & Kelley, 2007).
From these and other studies, it is obvious that self-injury in teens is a major concern. What most people think of as self-injury is referred to as Non-Suicidal Self-Injury (NSSI) in the psychology community. NSSI is when an individual intentionally harms himself or herself in a manner that is not socially acceptable and does not have suicidal intent. From this point forward, NSSI will be referred to as self-injury.
When you hear the phrase self-injurious behavior, what is your initial reaction? You may have questions such as: Why would someone intentionally harm themselves? Are there any warning signs? How can I help?
Throughout this article we will examine these and other aspects of this very important and often misunderstood topic.
What Does Self-Injury Look Like?
Individuals who engage in self-injurious behavior may use one method or multiple methods. Often, in my experience, there may be an escalation in behavior from more superficial scratching or cutting to increasingly more severe harm.
Some researchers have found that self-injury can take on addictive features (Nixon, Clouter, & Aggarwal, 2002). This
By Angela Hanford,
Posted March 6th, 2018
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Everyone displays problematic behavior at some point, whether it is overreacting to being cut off on the freeway or coping in not-so-healthy ways (e.g., emotional eating). This is especially true for children, since a child’s brain is continuing to grow and does not become fully mature until early adulthood.
Furthermore, although a child may be able to control his or her behavior in some situations, other times, especially when emotionally overwhelmed, the same child may actually be unable to control his or her behavior/reactions. This, although mind boggling and frustrating at times, is completely normal!
On the other hand, there are some child behavior problems that you definitely should not ignore, especially when these problems become habitual or negatively impact a child’s functioning and/or relationships. It is at this point that it is time to seek help. By intervening early, you have a chance at eliminating the behavior before the problem escalates and/or has significant consequences.
Regardless of the child behavior problems you are facing in your home, there is hope! A child’s brain has amazing capacities for growth and change. Furthermore, caregivers and other adults are vital partners in helping a child develop healthy coping skills and the ability to regulate emotions and, therefore, behavior.
As we examine specific behavior problems, keep in mind what the behavior could represent for the child in question. I like what Daniel Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. write in their book, No Drama Discipline (2014). These authors