While it is completely normal to experience angst during the teen years, the stresses of being a teenager should never prevent your child–or your family–from flourishing. The teen years are all about self-discovery and testing boundaries in order to shape identity. This can put a real strain on even the healthiest family relationships. If your teen is struggling and you are finding it difficult to cope with the challenges at home, we encourage you to seek help.
Christian counseling is a wonderful opportunity for your teenager to ask serious questions, develop healthy habits, and discover strengths and weaknesses. A Christian counselor can provide a safe, non-judgmental ear and compassionate, balanced perspective to help your teenager process the challenges of growing into early adulthood. A Christian counselor can also help your teen learn to build healthy peer relationships while modeling positive interpersonal skills in the client-counselor relationship. Ultimately, Christian counseling for teens provides support for teens and their families as they try to navigate these difficult years.
Common Issues Facing Today's Teens
Being a teenager has never been easy–and the personal, academic, and social demands facing today’s teens are perhaps greater than ever before. Some of the issues teenagers wrestle with haven’t really changed: peer pressure, sex and relationships, and academic burdens have always been, and continue to be, among most teenagers’ main preoccupations. But many of these concerns are more acute than ever, and with the rise of eating disorders, gun violence, substance abuse, and cyber bullying, it’s no wonder today’s teens are stressed.
Warning Signs in Teens
Your teen may be reluctant to talk to you about the problems he or she is facing. While this can make it difficult to discern what is a real concern and what is normal teenage behavior, there are ways to tell the difference. Common warning signs include a sudden change in social behavior, extreme shifts in mood, increase or decrease in appetite, and poor academic performance. But this is not a comprehensive list of warning signs.
By Spencer Fox,
Posted March 6th, 2019
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I recently saw the movie 8th Grade, wherein we follow the journey of 13 year old Kayla as she navigates the social landscape of 8th grade. It chronicles in a very realistically and honestly R-rated fashion the struggles that girls (and boys) are going through today.
Watching this movie, I was struck by how much I connected with it and some of the feelings that I experienced as a 13-year-old boy.
Sometimes a movie like this teleports you in time to a period that you thought was long resolved in your life, and then you begin to realize many of those thoughts, emotions, and experiences we moved on from were really put on pause until we have the emotional bandwidth to deal with it later in life.
I remember in my own 8th grade experience my English teacher telling my class at the beginning of the year that 8th grade would “be the nadir of our lives.” Now she was an English teacher and used a word I had never heard of and many people haven’t who I have related this story to, so let me define it for you:
“Nadir, noun: the lowest point in the fortunes of a person or organization”
8th grade. Our lowest point. Not the joyful, happy ending of middle school we hoped for, but rather the year of “hey, at least it can’t get worse than this!” 8th grade, the year most of us spent 13-14 years old, is smack
Can Counseling for Kids Improve Their Behavior? Does It Last?
By David Hodel,
Posted March 4th, 2019
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Raising children can feel like a full-time job. My mother once referred to the process as “the civilization of little savages,” which isn’t far from the truth.
We start out all id and ego, needing, wanting, taking, and it is largely due to the intervention of our primary caregivers – who provide the much-needed correction and moral framework – that we are ever fit for society. When our best efforts aren’t enough, when our children persist in unacceptable behavior and all the carrots and sticks have failed, sometimes it’s necessary to get help from a professional.
How We Are Formed
Arguments have raged for centuries over the question of whether we are most formed by nature (our biology) or nurture (our environment). The fact is brain chemistry is something we are born with, but brain chemistry can be altered. Parents can do everything right and still have a child who has discipline problems.
There is no one-size-fits-all solution. A child with a predisposition toward aggression may learn to control it or end up in an institution of one form or another. It is a terrifying thought for any loving parent, which is why we need to remain hopeful and keep looking for solutions when confronted by issues regarding our children.
Diagnosis is Often a Process
Imagine for a moment you are a parent to a 10-year-old boy named Jimmy. The presenting issue is his behavior in class. Lately, he has been disrespectful to his teacher, getting into
Most Unusual Symptoms of ADD: Often Overlooked and Misdiagnosed
By Curran Otis,
Posted February 27th, 2019
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Attention Deficit Disorder, known as ADD, is commonly recognized and present in children as an inability to remain focused in structured environments, such as school.
Some of the more well-known symptoms of ADD that are easily identified include fleeting memory recall, very short attention span, and trouble with impulse control. These paint a picture of ADD, especially with children, as one of the more difficult and misdiagnosed conditions.
However, often some of the more unusual symptoms of ADD are overlooked and misdiagnosed. Most school environments are not designed for free movement for those who are more hands-on learners. Often, restlessness and inattention can be mistaken for struggles with Attention Deficit Disorder.
Individuals with ADD often struggle with losing interest in topics that do not challenge them intellectually. This behavior often shows as inattention and is misinterpreted as “not paying attention.”
Among the symptoms of ADD, mood swings are another unusual sign. This is often mistaken for Bipolar Disorder and treated the same. However, mood swings are common with ADD.
When you’re able to see multiple perspectives and commit energy to these outcomes, often strong passions and emotions come with focusing on these desires. These strong emotional connections are very powerful and contribute to the creative energy that comes with ADD. When these feelings of deep connection and conviction are taken away, this can feel like you are not able to be your authentic self.
According to ADDitude (2019), a resource to view inside the ADD mind, some