Teens are capable of talking through their thoughts and feelings given a chance and the right setting. The Christian Counseling environment is designed to be that space and will help teens through their numerous tests and trials.
While it is completely normal to experience angst during the teen years, the stresses of being a teenager should never prevent your child–or your family–from flourishing. The teen years are all about self-discovery and testing boundaries in order to shape identity. This can put a real strain on even the healthiest family relationships. If your teen is struggling and you are finding it difficult to cope with the challenges at home, we encourage you to seek help.
Christian counseling is a wonderful opportunity for your teenager to ask serious questions, develop healthy habits, and discover strengths and weaknesses. A Christian counselor can provide a safe, non-judgmental ear and compassionate, balanced perspective to help your teenager process the challenges of growing into early adulthood. A Christian counselor can also help your teen learn to build healthy peer relationships while modeling positive interpersonal skills in the client-counselor relationship. Ultimately, Christian counseling for teens provides support for teens and their families as they try to navigate these difficult years.
Common Issues Facing Today's Teens
Being a teenager has never been easy–and the personal, academic, and social demands facing today’s teens are perhaps greater than ever before. Some of the issues teenagers wrestle with haven’t really changed: peer pressure, sex and relationships, and academic burdens have always been, and continue to be, among most teenagers’ main preoccupations. But many of these concerns are more acute than ever, and with the rise of eating disorders, gun violence, substance abuse, and cyber bullying, it’s no wonder today’s teens are stressed.
Warning Signs in Teens
Your teen may be reluctant to talk to you about the problems he or she is facing. While this can make it difficult to discern what is a real concern and what is normal teenage behavior, there are ways to tell the difference. Common warning signs include a sudden change in social behavior, extreme shifts in mood, increase or decrease in appetite, and poor academic performance. But this is not a comprehensive list of warning signs.
How to Help Troubled Teens Dealing with Depression
By Carmilla Solomon,
Posted September 25th, 2017
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For the last 20 years, I have worked in some capacity with adolescents, particularly troubled teens. When I worked in foster care, I witnessed firsthand the impact of parental choices on children, some good and some not so good. When I worked in law enforcement, I saw how a lack of parenting created long-term problems for both the adolescent and parents. When I transitioned into school counseling, I witnessed how a lack of support in a child’s early years often resulted in a lack of support in a child’s high school years.
But the main thing I have learned in working with troubled teens is how not having a sense of belonging creates space for depression. What does a lack of belonging mean? Belonging means connection. Belonging means knowing that you are accepted as you are. It means security.
Can you imagine a life without security, without belonging anywhere? Think about high school for a minute. We have cliques: the athletic students, the drama/band students, the robotics/engineering students and we have the outliers. The outliers are those students who don’t fit in anywhere. This was the group I specialized in at my high school. These were the students who sat in my office in tears because they felt rejected, angry because they felt different, or isolated because they felt no one cared about them.
Brene Brown’s latest work, Braving the Wilderness (2017) talks about this. She mentions how deeply she disagreed with a quote
The Faithful Family: Christian Counseling and Raising Godly Children
By Kimberly Riley,
Posted September 8th, 2017
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As I think about some of the families that I have worked with and even my own family, one thing that has always been consistent is the formation of family rules, values, and norms. Christian families will often use the Bible as a guide for creating their values, which also includes ideas around what it looks like to raise their children.
The Bible talks quite a bit about families. Families in the Bible traveled together (the children of Israel), went through hardships (Noah and his family on the Ark), experienced betrayal (Cain and Abel), and were sometimes completely torn apart by tragedy (remember Job?).
I believe God knew that families would be searching for examples and answers to make it through their own family struggles, so He included many real life stories in the Bible. The Bible gives specific instructions to parents on how they should raise their children in some areas, but other areas seem to be a little less clear.
What does the Bible say, if anything, about counseling? Did anyone receive counsel from wise people? The Bible includes many incidents where someone is gaining wisdom or knowledge from a trusted person, often directly from God through a chosen person (I am reminded of Paul’s letters to the church).
I think Christians everywhere would agree that Jesus was the best counselor of all times! He embodied all of the great qualities every therapist should. Jesus was an amazing listener, He helped people reflect
Anger Management for Kids: How Christian Counseling Can Help
By Mike Newman,
Posted August 10th, 2017
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The reasons and causes for a child to be prone to angry outbursts are too numerous to discuss in one article. Children are born with different innate dispositions, may be dealing with a disability that constantly frustrates them, or may be reacting to a dramatic change to their life. These are some examples of life factors that result in an angry child who is difficult to manage.
Having an approach specific to the particular cause is an important consideration when dealing with anger management for kids. However, we can find some universal parenting principles in the Bible that are necessary ingredients for helping children develop coping skills to function in the world.
In my 20 years in working with families, a common theme I have found with children and teenagers with anger problems is inconsistent parenting. A lot of permissive parents focus on being connected to their child, but shift to be controlling in a crisis. Conversely, authoritarian parents don’t know how to be positively connected to their kids when things are going well and provide little support toward autonomy.
Many parents shift back and forth between the two styles inconsistently, leaving the child without stable boundaries to figure things out. The result is that the child is constantly frustrated through the lack of consistency in their environment and they don’t learn coping skills that translate to the demands of real life.
In their landmark parenting book, Parenting with Love and Logic, Jim Fay and