If your child is struggling and it seems as if they are finding it difficult to cope with the challenges at home or school, we encourage you to seek professional support. A Christian counselor can help your child understand and work through the challenges of growing up. We will also come alongside you to equip you to support your child’s needs more effectively. Counseling provides a safe and supportive environment in which children can feel heard and understood, and through the child-counselor relationship, he or she can learn tactics to deal with difficult issues.
Because each child has a unique set of needs, the methods and aims of counseling will differ from child to child. However, counseling for children usually involves play therapy, talk therapy, and parent engagement. The counselor will use their expertise to help your child feel safe and comfortable expressing any concerns or fears while also helping parents feel empowered as well. Mill Creek Christian Counseling, we seek to support the whole family. If you are in need of Christian Family counseling check out our family-counseling page.
The challenges of conflict in the home, the trauma of bullying, divorce or single-parent households, the pressure to ‘fit in’—all of these can negatively impact a child’s self-esteem and can lead to more serious concerns. In addition to such environmental and social obstacles, some children suffer from behavioral and/or mental health issues that hinder normal development. Many of us are used to hearing about children diagnosed with ADHD or Aspergers Syndrome, but a child can also suffer from depression or anxiety.
Many problems in a child’s life are short-lived and can be resolved without outside intervention. However, you may become concerned if your child’s behavior indicates a more serious or chronic issue. Some of the most common warning signs that something is wrong with a child include: social withdrawal, difficulty controlling emotion, poor impulse control, and behavioral problems. The most important thing to remember is to trust your instincts. Parents can usually tell if something is wrong with their child.
For any parent, raising a child is a lot of work. You have to feed them, clothe them, get them to school, keep them occupied when they get home from school. The list of responsibilities goes on! Amidst all this, like any good parent, you are trying to help them become good, upstanding members of society.
However, at times it seems a sisyphean task to help your kids understand the “whys” and consequences of their actions. As such, we set boundaries, rules, and limits that help to guide children in the way they should act. By they time they are grown and leaving for college, though, most of those rules begin to be shed. How do we get to this point of having responsible, moral children who become responsible, moral adults?
All children go through a developmental process. We can think of the obvious physical development, such as learning to walk, talk, grow, etc. Another realm is their cognitive development, such as the acquisition of words in their vocabulary and their ability to learn new and abstract concepts.
Another element of their psychology would be their moral development. Just as they begin to understand how letters form words and numbers can create math problems, so must they begin to understand that rules and morality exist and they also exist to serve a purpose.
Before diving into moral development, let’s look more broadly at a theory of psychological development created by psychologist Jean Piaget. He postulated that there...Read More
Raising children can feel like a full-time job. My mother once referred to the process as “the civilization of little savages,” which isn’t far from the truth.
We start out all id and ego, needing, wanting, taking, and it is largely due to the intervention of our primary caregivers – who provide the much-needed correction and moral framework – that we are ever fit for society. When our best efforts aren’t enough, when our children persist in unacceptable behavior and all the carrots and sticks have failed, sometimes it’s necessary to get help from a professional.
Arguments have raged for centuries over the question of whether we are most formed by nature (our biology) or nurture (our environment). The fact is brain chemistry is something we are born with, but brain chemistry can be altered. Parents can do everything right and still have a child who has discipline problems.
There is no one-size-fits-all solution. A child with a predisposition toward aggression may learn to control it or end up in an institution of one form or another. It is a terrifying thought for any loving parent, which is why we need to remain hopeful and keep looking for solutions when confronted by issues regarding our children.
Imagine for a moment you are a parent to a 10-year-old boy named Jimmy. The presenting issue is his behavior in class. Lately, he has been disrespectful to his teacher, getting into...Read More
Attention Deficit Disorder, known as ADD, is commonly recognized and present in children as an inability to remain focused in structured environments, such as school.
Some of the more well-known symptoms of ADD that are easily identified include fleeting memory recall, very short attention span, and trouble with impulse control. These paint a picture of ADD, especially with children, as one of the more difficult and misdiagnosed conditions.
However, often some of the more unusual symptoms of ADD are overlooked and misdiagnosed. Most school environments are not designed for free movement for those who are more hands-on learners. Often, restlessness and inattention can be mistaken for struggles with Attention Deficit Disorder.
Individuals with ADD often struggle with losing interest in topics that do not challenge them intellectually. This behavior often shows as inattention and is misinterpreted as “not paying attention.”
Among the symptoms of ADD, mood swings are another unusual sign. This is often mistaken for Bipolar Disorder and treated the same. However, mood swings are common with ADD.
When you’re able to see multiple perspectives and commit energy to these outcomes, often strong passions and emotions come with focusing on these desires. These strong emotional connections are very powerful and contribute to the creative energy that comes with ADD. When these feelings of deep connection and conviction are taken away, this can feel like you are not able to be your authentic self.
According to ADDitude (2019), a resource to view inside the ADD mind, some...Read More