Do you have a hard time controlling your anger? Is your anger ever disproportionate to the experience that caused it? Have you gotten into trouble (legal or otherwise) because of your anger issues? Feeling angry is a perfectly normal emotion, but when it spins out of control, anger can have a negative impact on your mental, emotional, and spiritual life—and unchecked anger devastates relationships. Fortunately, there are ways tell if anger is becoming a problem in your life.
Anger Management And Healing
Anger is a secondary emotion, which means that it is usually fueled by an underlying primary emotion such as fear or sadness. Counseling provides a safe space in which you can identify and deal with emotions underneath the surface. A counselor can also help you identify triggers of anger and together you can explore healthy ways of coping with anger. Anger management counseling offers practical solutions that can empower you to take control of your life and relationships.
Causes and Reasons for Anger
Remember, anger is a normal response to life’s frustrations. Anger only becomes a problem when you find yourself unable to express this emotion in a healthy way. If you are struggling to control your anger, chances are that there is a deeper problem that needs to be addressed. Some of the most common causes of anger issues include poor self-esteem, bottled emotions, and chronic stress. Persons who have suffered trauma, abuse, or grief are also more likely to face anger problems.
Anger and Relationships
There is no doubt that an anger issue takes a toll on a person’s ability to forge and maintain healthy, happy relationships, and it can be very challenging and even painful to care for someone with an anger issue. If you are suffering from an anger issue, you probably feel isolated and cut off—but it doesn’t need to be that way. Learning to channel anger effectively, and to confront a problem when it arises, will go a long way toward repairing and restoring your relationships.
By David Hodel,
Posted November 12th, 2018
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I remember my father describing being at the grocery store once. There was a woman with a child who was being unruly. She tried to get the boy to settle down and grabbed his arm, but he screamed and raged all the more. I remember the menacing look on my father’s face as he commented a kid who did that in HIS care would only do it once.
Few things can impact us as quickly and as deeply as the anger of our child. We all have our own reactions to it; some weather it and patiently correct, some get angry or violent right back, some feel overwhelmed and emotionally go to ground unable to deal with it. As they are remarkably complex, uniquely formed individuals, there is no one-size-fits-all solution when your children are angry, but there are some tools that will help in most cases.
It’s Tough Being a Kid
We’ve all been there, and while a very few of us may have had a completely peaceful transition into adulthood, a great many of us suffered all manner of emotional and physical traumas along that particular path.
When you think for a moment about the developmental phases a child goes through, it makes sense that rage is going to be a part of their emotional makeup. Their capacity to experience it and process it will vary from person to person, based not only on emotional wiring but the extent of their trauma narrative
By Leah Elliott,
Posted July 9th, 2018
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Have you ever heard the statement, “Anger is a second emotion”? This statement intrigues me. Thinking back into past experiences this statement rings true. Has there ever been a time in your life when you were first angry? Think about it. Most often sadness or hurt arises, then as a second emotion, anger follows. Anger is defined as a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or hostility.
In sessions, I often use the example that anger is a ticking time bomb. Event after event, time after time eventually it explodes. Some people think, if they push it down and ignore it then it will not affect their life. Sadly it affects their life more. Eventually, as time builds and hurts get deeper, the wound becomes more like a scare and anger gets closer to the time of its explosion.
When we ask what is the heart of the matter of this emotion anger, we are asking how does it develop and how does it affect our heart and lives. How is anger so impactful? It changes our perspective, perhaps makes us lose hope and our trust in people. Perhaps it changes our desire to maintain and develop friendships.
It is carried around with us daily and we think we have left it in a box stored away till we want to unpack it again. Anger is heavy; it is sadness, disappointment, lost expectations, hurt and pain. It
By Spencer Fox,
Posted April 25th, 2018
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But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! – Galatians 5:2-23
One of the most common things I hear from men in my office is “… and then I just get so angry.” Anger seems to rest on our population like a plague, often creating a wake of devastation in the lives of families all over America. While many men experience anger, their loved ones, friends, and co-workers feel the ripple effect. Even that guy who you cut off in traffic.
Anger spreads, invades, and infects those around us. Further, when we try to bottle it down, it becomes like a pressure cooker ready to explode. As such, many treatments men try to use for themselves either end up having no effect or else the opposite effect. Treating anger in isolation, head on, can often be a futile task.
Imagine this: you are standing in a cove on the beach, and I instruct you to stop the waves from coming in. How could you accomplish such a task? Would you stand in front of the waves and tell them to stop? Would you lean into the waves and use your body to block their path? These attempts would likely yield poor results as the water will find any route around you.
No matter how quick you move, how much space you can take up, the