Many people believe that couples counseling is only married couples, for but counseling can support and strengthen relationships at any stage. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, our experienced counselors come alongside couples to help mediate conflict-resolution for various issues that come up in dating—from commitment fears to sexual health to long-distance relationships and everything in between. We also help partners discuss and discern questions about their future, including marriage and starting or blending a family. Whether you have been dating for six months or six years, our counselors are delighted to support you and your partner as you seek to build a healthy life together.
Contrary to popular belief, there is no set of hard-and-fast “rules” for building a healthy dating relationship. Generally speaking, however, the key to a dating is to maintain balance: we tend to become very invested in our dating relationships, and keeping perspective is a skill everyone must learn. Dating is a great way to learn about who you are–your needs, interests, and desires–and to discern what you want in a partner. When the right person comes along, intimacy will develop naturally.
Learning to communicate well and to manage conflict with compassion and integrity are two of the most important acquired skills in any dating relationship. Even the closest relationships are not immune from miscommunication, and partners who have been together for years still experience conflict. A Christian counselor can help you and your partner learn how to navigate communication problems and conflict resolution. He or she will provide you with the tools to manage these issues in healthy and relationship-affirming ways.
A violation of trust has enormous potential to undermine the health of your relationship. If your relationship has been damaged by betrayal or lying, we encourage you to seek help. Repairing a broken relationship is never easy, but if you and your loved one are committed to healing, restoration is possible. Our trained counselors have helped many couples to overcome the hurt of betrayal, infidelity, and chronic lying, and to discover the path back to relational wholeness.
Learning to love and care for our significant others is a process that requires patience, discernment, and forgiveness. Whether you and your partner are in need of a little support or a serious reassessment, we are happy to help. No matter what stage you are at in your relationship, our counselors are here to support and encourage you in taking healthy, positive steps toward true intimacy and deeper commitment. Christian couples counseling is a wonderful opportunity to make time for your partner and to discover your shared values and visions for the future together. Give your relationship the attention it deserves–call us today!
By Matthew Antolick,
Posted May 15th, 2019
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Surviving an affair and recovering from infidelity is a very unique struggle. Those who have been through this traumatic event will tell you there is really nothing quite like it. One of my callings as a counselor is to help people on all sides as they work through both the causes and the effects after the affair — the pain, separation, confusion, grief, and conflict that can result.
Throughout our sessions together, I will emphasize the importance of building trust. This is because trust is widely considered to be one of the most important foundations of a “healthy relationship” — so much so that without trust, there can hardly be any kind of relationship at all apart from an adversarial one.
Infidelity Damages Trust
First let’s talk about trust. Trust is like a glass sculpture. It takes time and careful skill to make. It can also be smashed into hundreds of pieces with the momentary strike of a hammer. It can be rebuilt, but it takes time. The shards of broken trust can easily cut and cause bleeding. Broken trust hurts, and it is nasty stuff to wade through without guidance.
It is difficult to rebuild trust, especially in the aftermath of infidelity. It is possible, but often without skilled guidance of a counselor, those “quicksand moments” when everything starts sinking the moment one partner starts talking, will continue to happen. It can feel like the same old painful argument goes nowhere, over and over
Premarital Counseling: Why Should We Seek Counseling Before We Say I Do?
By Maryann Stigen,
Posted May 6th, 2019
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Congratulations! You’re getting married! This is surely one of the most exciting seasons of your life and for good reason. You are about to embark on a journey with your best friend, and the person you envision growing old with.
A great adventure is about to begin! However, just like any adventure in life can be better prepared for, rather than just showing up and seeing how it all plays out, so too, can you take steps right now to ensure a smoother journey ahead for you and your beloved.
I am sure you have a million questions, and unfortunately, most of those will go unanswered until you actually see those events in your mind playing out in real time. There are a few things that no one can teach you or provide a “How To” manual for, but thankfully, God is always present, He is all-knowing, and He promises to never leave you or forsake you – whether the season of life be favorable or challenging to your faith and relationship.
What are some of the things that do not come with an instruction manual? In-laws. We all hope and pray that we will be blessed with the ideal in-laws, don’t we? In our hearts, we yearn for marriage to consist of adoption into a second family; an enhancement to our lives, harmonious relationships that are effortless and present, etc.
I hope and pray this is a reality for you! However, unfortunately, this will
How to Speak the Truth in Love Within Your Marriage
By Matthew Antolick,
Posted March 21st, 2019
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Learning how to speak the truth in love isn’t always easy. I can think of many times I’ve sold out truth for the sake “love,” or the other way around. That is, I’ve spoken the truth, but not in a very loving way. They needed to hear it after all, and I’m not afraid to speak the truth. Someone has to do it.
So I tell my wife what I think about how she’s handling the stress of getting ready for having people over. I tell her how to fix it. “Just stop worrying, trust Jesus.” It’s the truth! It’s a solution to a problem! And it makes things worse. I remembered to speak the “truth,” but I forgot to be loving.
Or, maybe I see something that is true – I see my spouse struggling and it looks like I may have a solution, or a way of helping. But it didn’t go well the last time I tried to jump in and say something. So instead of taking a risk, I don’t say anything.
Maybe it works out okay. Maybe tension mounts inside of me, until I say it in an unloving way. Or maybe I just believe that you don’t upset the people you love, so I just keep it to myself. I take, for the moment, the easy path.
It is easy to sell out being truthful for the sake of being “loving.” It is also easy to sell out being