Many people believe that couples counseling is only married couples, for but counseling can support and strengthen relationships at any stage. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, our experienced counselors come alongside couples to help mediate conflict-resolution for various issues that come up in dating—from commitment fears to sexual health to long-distance relationships and everything in between. We also help partners discuss and discern questions about their future, including marriage and starting or blending a family. Whether you have been dating for six months or six years, our counselors are delighted to support you and your partner as you seek to build a healthy life together.
Contrary to popular belief, there is no set of hard-and-fast “rules” for building a healthy dating relationship. Generally speaking, however, the key to a dating is to maintain balance: we tend to become very invested in our dating relationships, and keeping perspective is a skill everyone must learn. Dating is a great way to learn about who you are–your needs, interests, and desires–and to discern what you want in a partner. When the right person comes along, intimacy will develop naturally.
Learning to communicate well and to manage conflict with compassion and integrity are two of the most important acquired skills in any dating relationship. Even the closest relationships are not immune from miscommunication, and partners who have been together for years still experience conflict. A Christian counselor can help you and your partner learn how to navigate communication problems and conflict resolution. He or she will provide you with the tools to manage these issues in healthy and relationship-affirming ways.
A violation of trust has enormous potential to undermine the health of your relationship. If your relationship has been damaged by betrayal or lying, we encourage you to seek help. Repairing a broken relationship is never easy, but if you and your loved one are committed to healing, restoration is possible. Our trained counselors have helped many couples to overcome the hurt of betrayal, infidelity, and chronic lying, and to discover the path back to relational wholeness.
Learning to love and care for our significant others is a process that requires patience, discernment, and forgiveness. Whether you and your partner are in need of a little support or a serious reassessment, we are happy to help. No matter what stage you are at in your relationship, our counselors are here to support and encourage you in taking healthy, positive steps toward true intimacy and deeper commitment. Christian couples counseling is a wonderful opportunity to make time for your partner and to discover your shared values and visions for the future together. Give your relationship the attention it deserves–call us today!
By David Hodel,
Posted August 8th, 2018
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You may have heard that only a small percentage of what you communicate is actually in your words. The look in your eyes, the expression on your face, the shape of your mouth, the tone and timbre of your voice, your body language – all join together in a little symphony of communication when you try to speak to someone else. All this information is coming your direction when someone is trying to communicate with you.
To make matters even more complicated, in addition to receiving all this information, your mind has to comprehend the language, the form, and the idea behind it. Add to this the fact that typically while someone is speaking, we are having possible responses pop up in our minds at the end of every sentence, and it’s amazing anyone ever communicates anything.
When we reach an impasse in our ability to communicate effectively, it is time to call on a professional communication coach to help us navigate those waters. We need a referee.
A Quick Example
Let’s make up a couple, Karen and Bill. They’ve been married a few years, have a couple of young kids, and by mutual agreement, Bill has a day job and Karen runs the household. Karen is having one of those days – kids have been fussy, the check engine light came on, she dropped a full cup of coffee on the floor and got it on her
Divorce Counseling For Couples With Children: 6 Unexpected Benefits
By David Hodel,
Posted August 6th, 2018
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One of the great tragedies in any life is the dissolution of what was supposed to be a lifelong journey. Divorce usually marks the death of shared hopes and dreams and is deeply disruptive to everyone involved. There is a scale of life stressors by someone named Rahe; on this list, divorce is rated second, just after the death of a spouse or child.
The pain and stress of the transition are significant, sometimes enormous, even if the people involved somehow manage to guard against despondency, avoid blame shifting, manage their anger, maintain civility and focus forward toward a more positive “new normal.”
If neither spouse is immovably spiteful or bitter to the point that they no longer have the capacity to have the children’s best interests at heart then this is a situation where a licensed counselor can make a huge difference in helping the couple manage the emotional currents present in the process. If there are children involved, even more so. If the parents are unable to agree to settle things amicably, their lawyers will end up doing it in court.
Divorce Counseling When Children are Involved
What follows is only intended for couples where there is no abuse involved. If one or both parents are abusive, the divorce probably will not be amicable, and if it is, safety measures need to be in place to protect the children, which is beyond the scope of
By Spencer Fox,
Posted June 12th, 2018
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For most couples, there will be ups and downs in their relationships. While we would love to live in the bliss and infatuation that often accompanies the honeymoon period, we will all at some point have a rough patch.
Relationship satisfaction can look like a roller coaster. Ideally, this would be the most boring roller coaster that is all height without the fall, but usually, there are dips.
First of all, this is normal and not a sign that your relationship is doomed. Secondly, many couples find great success in increasing satisfaction by entering into couple’s therapy.
In the modern world, there are many options for therapy and counseling. Much of the success of therapy comes from the “fit” between the therapist and client(s).
Shopping for therapists is a normal and healthy process to find one whose style works for you. Some will be more directional, others more facilitative of processing emotions.
More recently, online counseling and therapy are becoming options therapists provide. This might be part of the shopping process for you as you begin to assess what your needs and desires are for therapy. Before getting into this distinction, however, it would be good to understand what the process of therapy will look like from either method (online or in person).
What Does Couples Therapy Look Like?
Regardless of whether you’re coming in or participating in couples therapy online, the general structure will look similar. Below I am going to outline what you might expect from