Many people believe that couples counseling is only married couples, for but counseling can support and strengthen relationships at any stage. At Mill Creek Christian Counseling, our experienced counselors come alongside couples to help mediate conflict-resolution for various issues that come up in dating—from commitment fears to sexual health to long-distance relationships and everything in between. We also help partners discuss and discern questions about their future, including marriage and starting or blending a family. Whether you have been dating for six months or six years, our counselors are delighted to support you and your partner as you seek to build a healthy life together.
Contrary to popular belief, there is no set of hard-and-fast “rules” for building a healthy dating relationship. Generally speaking, however, the key to a dating is to maintain balance: we tend to become very invested in our dating relationships, and keeping perspective is a skill everyone must learn. Dating is a great way to learn about who you are–your needs, interests, and desires–and to discern what you want in a partner. When the right person comes along, intimacy will develop naturally.
Learning to communicate well and to manage conflict with compassion and integrity are two of the most important acquired skills in any dating relationship. Even the closest relationships are not immune from miscommunication, and partners who have been together for years still experience conflict. A Christian counselor can help you and your partner learn how to navigate communication problems and conflict resolution. He or she will provide you with the tools to manage these issues in healthy and relationship-affirming ways.
A violation of trust has enormous potential to undermine the health of your relationship. If your relationship has been damaged by betrayal or lying, we encourage you to seek help. Repairing a broken relationship is never easy, but if you and your loved one are committed to healing, restoration is possible. Our trained counselors have helped many couples to overcome the hurt of betrayal, infidelity, and chronic lying, and to discover the path back to relational wholeness.
Learning to love and care for our significant others is a process that requires patience, discernment, and forgiveness. Whether you and your partner are in need of a little support or a serious reassessment, we are happy to help. No matter what stage you are at in your relationship, our counselors are here to support and encourage you in taking healthy, positive steps toward true intimacy and deeper commitment. Christian couples counseling is a wonderful opportunity to make time for your partner and to discover your shared values and visions for the future together. Give your relationship the attention it deserves–call us today!
Improving Your Marriage: Marriage and Family Counseling Together
By Spencer Fox,
Posted October 24th, 2018
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In my work, I see a mix of couples, families, and individuals. It’s rare that a problem exists solely with an individual without any repercussions for the surrounding family. Problems that affect you will affect your family and problems that affect your family will affect you.
A bedrock of your family, your marriage serves as a motor for the family as a whole. If the marriage is healthy, your family usually shows signs of health but when marriage problems arise, they can affect the whole family as well, like a series of ripples in a pond.
The Social Ecology of the Family
Imagine a series of concentric circles. Somewhere near the middle is the circle that represents “you” in your wholeness and entirety. There are few more inside which represent your mind, your body, your body chemistry, and your soul.
Moving outward from the “you circle,” next, we might see your immediate family, your extended family and friends, your neighborhood, your city, your culture, and your country. Like rings of a tree or the ripples on a pond, these circles represent the multiple realms that affect who you are. This series of circles is sometimes called the “social ecology of the family.”
“Social ecology of the family” is a heavily loaded term, so let’s dissect it in reverse. The family is, in this model, the point around which everything else revolves. In Western culture, we tend to place importance on the individual and end up viewing
By David Hodel,
Posted August 8th, 2018
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You may have heard that only a small percentage of what you communicate is actually in your words. The look in your eyes, the expression on your face, the shape of your mouth, the tone and timbre of your voice, your body language – all join together in a little symphony of communication when you try to speak to someone else. All this information is coming your direction when someone is trying to communicate with you.
To make matters even more complicated, in addition to receiving all this information, your mind has to comprehend the language, the form, and the idea behind it. Add to this the fact that typically while someone is speaking, we are having possible responses pop up in our minds at the end of every sentence, and it’s amazing anyone ever communicates anything.
When we reach an impasse in our ability to communicate effectively, it is time to call on a professional communication coach to help us navigate those waters. We need a referee.
A Quick Example
Let’s make up a couple, Karen and Bill. They’ve been married a few years, have a couple of young kids, and by mutual agreement, Bill has a day job and Karen runs the household. Karen is having one of those days – kids have been fussy, the check engine light came on, she dropped a full cup of coffee on the floor and got it on her
Divorce Counseling For Couples With Children: 6 Unexpected Benefits
By David Hodel,
Posted August 6th, 2018
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One of the great tragedies in any life is the dissolution of what was supposed to be a lifelong journey. Divorce usually marks the death of shared hopes and dreams and is deeply disruptive to everyone involved. There is a scale of life stressors by someone named Rahe; on this list, divorce is rated second, just after the death of a spouse or child.
The pain and stress of the transition are significant, sometimes enormous, even if the people involved somehow manage to guard against despondency, avoid blame shifting, manage their anger, maintain civility and focus forward toward a more positive “new normal.”
If neither spouse is immovably spiteful or bitter to the point that they no longer have the capacity to have the children’s best interests at heart then this is a situation where a licensed counselor can make a huge difference in helping the couple manage the emotional currents present in the process. If there are children involved, even more so. If the parents are unable to agree to settle things amicably, their lawyers will end up doing it in court.
Divorce Counseling When Children are Involved
What follows is only intended for couples where there is no abuse involved. If one or both parents are abusive, the divorce probably will not be amicable, and if it is, safety measures need to be in place to protect the children, which is beyond the scope of