I’m here to help you discover why certain emotional and relational struggles keep recurring in your life, and to walk with you toward resolution. Sometimes we aren’t sure why certain things happen in our lives. Learning how to heal emotional wounds, improve communication, and understand continual challenges will lead you to new and better experiences and healthier relationships. I challenge my clients to work hard in sessions, but give them space to work at their own pace. I remain attentive to my clients’ individual needs – some are looking for clear direction, while others need help reflecting on and sorting through past experiences. I cater my approach to each individual’s unique situation and goals, in order to best serve my clients in their point of need.
Broken relationships, loneliness, anxiety, depression, anger issues, sexual brokenness, and many types of loss.
Stepping into individual counseling for the first time can be intimidating or frightening. I respect your courage and would be honored to be a part of your growing and healing process. I specialize in helping adults understand themselves at a deeper level and make sense of what is happening in their relationships. Because my approach is relational, our interactions during sessions will be an integral part of this process. My counseling process has helped many of my clients move beyond painful and disappointing experiences. Many work through difficult and confusing feelings about themselves and others – sometimes in areas where they may have felt “stuck” for a long time.
Couples therapy offers an opportunity to stop and reflect on your life story. This better prepares you for choosing how you want to live with your significant other. Part of my role is to help you see how you interact in relationships so you can be more intentional as you approach relationships in the future. When counseling couples I borrow heavily from the works of Dr. Dan Allender, Dr. David Schnarch (research-oriented sex therapy), Dr. Susan Johnson (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) and Dr. John Gottman (Love Lab Research). In addition to exploring the issues that bring you to counseling, we will look at relationships with other significant people in your life. Our work will focus on the ways that you thrive in relationships, as well as areas where you are hindered from reciprocity and enjoyment. I will collaborate with you to call out the truest and strongest areas of your heart and character in the hope of bringing about the most growth.
Fighting, Infidelity, Lying, Issues of Aggression, Boredom, Loss of Desire, Sex Therapy, Past Sexual Abuse, Parenting, Finances, and Intimacy Issues
Relationships are tough. Ask any couple that has been together for longer than 48 hours, and they’ll tell you that all relationships require hard work. We all hit speed bumps and potholes along the road as we navigate the winding terrain of male-female interaction. I take my role as a counselor seriously and want to be actively engaged in helping you create the relationship you desire. Together we’ll devise an action plan so you can be prepared and know what to do when the next rocky patch appears on the horizon.
I warmly invite you into a counseling relationship. I offer a risk-free initial session as well as a flexible range of scheduling options, including day and evening appointments. To learn more about areas of specialty and how my services might specifically benefit you, contact me @ (425) 736-1676 or firstname.lastname@example.org. If you are ready to setup an initial appointment contact my assistant Trish @ (206) 274-4664 or email@example.com
Please don’t hesitate to give me a call and come in for a risk-free initial session.
I do look forward to meeting you and would be honored to be part of your healing journey.
Benjamin Deu is an entrepreneurial co-founder of Greenlake Counseling, Inc. and Seattle Christian Counseling and a full-time Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Since 2005 he has been in full-time private mental health practices in Bothell, Washington and Seattle-Greenlake. As of the end of 2010 Benjamin has provided over 15,000 counseling sessions working with clients of all ages. He currently prefers working with male and female adults, and couples. Benjamin has a bachelor’s degree in biblical studies from the University of Nations in Hawaii and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from Mars Hill Graduate School in Washington.
Post-graduate, Benjamin worked under the Supervision of Doug Hansen, LCSW who has been an analytic psychotherapist and counselor for 28 years. This clinical supervision significantly informed Benjamin’s work with individual clients. Benjamin has also consulted weekly with a group of five licensed practitioners which has recently begun to focus more intensely on the dynamics of couples therapy and consultation with Dr. David Schnarch and Dr. Dan Allender.
As part of his master’s program, Benjamin interned at Compass Health, a community mental health agency in Edmonds. During his internship, he counseled children and their parents in both individual and group settings. Before attending graduate school, Benjamin participated in an immersion counseling course in the Netherlands, provided outreach to recovering alcoholics in Germany, and acted as a team captain with the Association for Christian Character Development (ACCD), an international program designed to help people clarify their life’s vision. During his volunteer work with the ACCD, he acted as a team leader helping individuals evaluate and strengthen concepts of promise, commitment, and negotiation within their relationships. In the United States and the Netherlands, Benjamin taught observation, interpretation, and application skills as they pertain to reading and understanding how context influences the meaning of text within the Bible.
Through a Christian upbringing, Benjamin has found faith to be an integral part of his decision-making, curiosity, and professional growth. He believes strongly in personal choice and feels that a person can redirect their life at any time. Benjamin relies primarily on mental health concepts within clinical settings. However, his diverse training allows clients to bring their faith into the therapeutic relationship, if desired. Benjamin’s colleagues note that he displays unconditional acceptance, energy, and insight to his clients. He helps people recognize that life is a continual balance between stability and growth through connection, hope, and assessment of personal experience.
Benjamin’s experience of overseas studies has helped him to understand how culture and environment impact a person. His dynamic blend of theological studies, mental health training and six years of missionary travel impact his ability to connect with a variety of clients. In addition, his personal experiences of cross-cultural marriage and being a musician, an entrepreneur and business owner allow him to understand the world from numerous angles.
Enhancing intimacy and freedom in dating, pre-marital and marital relationships.
Experience more fully who you are as an individual and grow a loving bond between you and your partner. I help couples discover and enhance the unique gifts that they possess as individuals and as a complement to each other. I draw heavily from my own intercultural marriage and parenting to understand many of the challenges that intimate relationships encounter.
Experience new found freedom in your body, gender and sexuality.
Work through emotions, fears and compulsions. I help my clients get to the core of what it means to be a sexual being without killing the God-given desires of their heart. Whether you are going through an affair, struggling with lust, wondering what is contributing to your loss of sexual desire, or engaging in compulsive sexual behavior, experience grace on your way to freedom. Discover your true desires for intimacy as well as your longing to be known and accepted.
Stop anxiety from controlling your life.
Regain a sense of control by confronting your fears in a supportive environment. Learn helpful skills to maintain a more balanced sense of well-being in your day-to-day living.
Reconnecting with a sense of purpose and passion in life.
Enhance your desire for life, relationships and mobility. Get in touch with what excites you and motivates you while building support by engaging life in fresh new ways.
Regain a sense of inner wholeness.
Reduce your dependency on drugs, alcohol, food, sex, shopping etc... as coping mechanisms that keep you from experiencing fullness in life. Learn healthy habits to replace harmful patterns in your life and break free from bonds of addiction.
Reduce your attraction to self-harming behavior.
Discover the roots and relational dynamics that contribute to these desires. Sort through what is stirring within you in a safe and confidential environment. Gain the strength to resist these harmful urges and learn ways to cope in a wholesome, life-giving manner.
A safe place to come undone and face life’s transitions.
Whether a divorce, miscarriage, or a loss of health, employment or loved one, we work together to create a safe place where you can explore and face the pain and emotions of loss—the struggle of transition and disorientation.
Grapple with the challenges of faith and its impact on your life.
Continue to grow as a spiritual person. Enter into the mystery and tension of being a human being created for perfection yet living in a world where our desires are sometimes left unfulfilled. Are you struggling on the one hand to make sense of the pain in your life and God’s goodness on the other? I desire to come along side you in these struggles, to be with you as wisdom grows through becoming present to the pain and confusion of life.
Exploring and expanding vision and potential, goal-setting, and developing a passion for life.
Most life coaches focus primarily on the present and the future. I tie this in with the therapeutic discovery of one’s past as a means to understanding and empowering their present and future goals. Time management, prioritizing life goals, simplifying busy schedules, and clarifying vision are some elements of the coaching services that I offer. I have over 3,000 hours of breakthrough/life coaching experience and look forward to assisting you in seeing your life’s calling come to fruition.
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I have been receiving counseling from Ben Deu and I cannot tell you how much it has changed my life. He has helped me to work through trauma and abuse that I have experienced that was holding me back from being the person that I was meant to be. Ben is very gentle in his approach, but also challenges you to face things that you need to face, but all at your pace. I have been so impressed with his professionalism and his approach to counseling. Meeting with Ben has truly changed my life and since then I have done things with my life that I never thought were possible for me before. He truly cares about his clients and the results show that.If you are considering seeing a counselor don’t hes...Read more
My initial view on counseling, like many others, was a negative one. I didn’t want to think my problems were enough to need professional help. But after some encouragement I started researching online and reading multiple reviews on different counselors, I came across Benjamin Deu. So many people had wonderful things to say about him and because a Christian counselor was top on my priority list, I decided to give it a shot with Benjamin. After the first session, my view on counseling was completely changed, everyone needs counseling in one way or another. Benjamin makes you feel comfortable and understood, yet at the same time challenging you to face issues in your life in a healthy mann...Read more
Through counseling you have shown us:
- any issues, percieved or otherwise, are not an indictment of our relationship as a whole
- you have shown us how to dream together
- you maintained the utmost professionalism through some trying sessions, ever open to any answer, probing only as necesssary to delve into the deeper issuus involved
On June 25, 2011 my wife and I celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary and we are more in love today than any other time in our lives together. We owe Benjamin a lot of the credit for being able to say that. We went through a very tough period over the last 5 years that nearly ended in divorce. Benjamin helped us get to the core of our problems both in our marriage as well as in our individual lives. Today we are very quick to recommend Benjamin not only to our friends in need of help but also to those who want to be proactive in making their relationships the best they can be.
Benjamin has the kind of presence that helps to soothe anxiety and bring order to chaos. He puts his experience to excellent use while continuing to be open to what each client needs individually.
I readily refer men, women, and couples to Benjamin Deu because I’m confident he does excellent, transformational work, with high integrity.
I have had the privilege of being in a consult group with Benjamin Deu for the past 5 years. In these years he has consistently shown his deep commitment to his clients through being an avid reader on topics related to them and being open to ask any question necessary to uncover what his clients most need. He believes the best about his clients and views their struggles from an optimistic and often unique perspective which allows them to overcome very difficult obstacles. Benjamin is one of the finest therapist in the Seattle area.
This was the second time in my life I sought counseling and found Benjamin Deu through a friend. The magnitude of change and impact on my life was astounding – and far beyond my prior counseling experience. There is something very special about the kind of counseling done here – because it is so highly effective. I have convinced 3 other friends from my church to seek help here and they are also amazed.Benjamin Deu was clearly dedicated to walking with me toward healing with many tools and insights. I felt safe, understood, and cared for as I poured out the childhood loss, trauma and confusion that was continuing the plague my adult life. I saw dramatic change and healing take place – ...Read more
I am a 28 year old single male that struggles with pornography, relating to my mother, and intimacy. These issues were affecting my relationship with my girlfriend, friendships, and career. My counselor Benjamin Deu has been a tremendous help to me as I sort out these issues and find my identity. Our sessions are helping me come to a more mature state of being. I would recommend counseling with him for any person regardless of how severe or trivial they consider their issues. He has a been a blessing to my life as our sessions have improved my relationship with God, friends, family, my bosses, and my girlfriend.
Your counsel made a big difference in my life, in the few times we met. It has greatly helped me to be able to move forward- to a place of hope.
Just the fact that I showed effort in coming to counseling has made a huge difference in my wife getting that I am committed to her and she now reacts differently to me as well. Because my wife has seen the difference in me she has been open to changing as well. I am able to manage my anger better. Benjamin has given me the tools to recognize traits within myself that I am able to control without reacting. What I noticed about Benjamin is that he is able to carefully listen to what I was saying and repeat back to me in a way that assured me of being understood and then he was able to open my eyes to things that I said and to be able to look beyond that and to what I am really saying ...Read more
Prior to marriage my husband and I were experiencing problems communicating with each other. We decided to seek premarital counseling with a Christian foundation, but were unsure where to start. We discovered Benjamin Deu by chance after searching online. Actually, the truth is my husband saw Benjamin’s picture on his website and thought he looked like a fair and honest person.
After the first session with Benjamin we realized he had the spiritual and professional knowledge accompanied with the worldly knowledge needed to help us grow individually and as partners.
Insurance: As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) a majority of insurance companies will reimburse for a portion of my services.
Individual Therapy: One-on-one therapy sessions. Regular sessions are 50 minutes.
Couples Therapy: Premarital, Marital, Dating, and Pre-Engagement Counseling. Duration – 50 minutes.
Clinical Supervison: Washington State approved supervisor for Graduates and Post-graduates working towards their Washington State Counseling Licenses – 50 minutes.
Receipts/Statements: In the event you require a printed or digital receipt I will provide receipts for personal use, insurance reimbursement, Flex Spending Accounts (FSA), and Health Savings Accounts (HSA).
Payment Options: I accept cash, checks, Mastercard, Visa, Discover and American Express. A 2.7% swipe fee or 3.5% key in fee will be added for credit card payments in office. I am unable to accept debit cards requiring a numeric password or pin-pad.