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Anger Issues: What is Behind Your Anger?

Part 1 of a 2-Part Series

Anger is an emotion and many of us have issues with anger. It is also like a fire alarm – it’s loud and warns us to look for a fire. Often we feel angry, but don’t really know why. We just know that we are angry. I get angry at injustice, when I am afraid, or when I feel powerless. Anger can be a signal that tells us we are hurt, or that we have compromised too much in a relationship. It can warn us of emotional danger, or it can be a defensive response to criticism.

Jesus’ Anger and Ours

Most of us view anger in a negative way – and we shut it off as soon as we can. However, the Bible instructs us to be angry and not to sin. Frankly, I’ve never been good at the not sin...

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Self-Talk (ANTS) Part 2 – Change Your Thought Processes

In my previous article, I discussed the importance of the thoughts we tell ourselves. Often the “truths” that we repeat to ourselves are not true at all, yet they can have a profound impact on our lives. In this context, Dr. Daniel Amen coined the term ANTs – Automatic Negative Thoughts. In this article, I outline his list of nine ANTs that we may sometimes struggle with thinking.

ANT #1: All or Nothing Thinking

This is thinking in which there is no middle ground and everything is either good or bad. In such cases, people are unwilling to challenge their thinking by looking for middle ground. “There is nothing t...

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Self-Talk Part 1 – What Does it Accomplish

  When I was younger, I lived in snow country. It snowed in the winter and we drove on snowy roads until it melted in April and May. As a teen, my father took me to an empty parking lot covered in snow and taught me how to handle the car, first by instructing me and then letting me test it out. To this day, if I drive in winter conditions, I rehearse several truths about driving: Turn into the skid, don’t put on your brakes, if you have to go off the road pick a ditch over hitting a car if you can, etc. As it happens, these “truths” are really true, and have helped me numerous times when driving in winter. They have been rehearsed over and over again. They are embedded.

“Truths” that are Not True

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How Christian Counseling Can Help When Caring for a Chronically Ill Child

The Effects of Chronically Ill Children on Marriage, Part 3 The effects of a chronically ill child on marital satisfaction have been studied by a number of researchers, with some studies indicating overwhelmingly negative reactions. In my previous articles, I have discussed some of the ways in which couples, together with their families, are coping with the stress, role assignments, perception, and depression related to the care of an ill child. Unresolved, untreated, or unrecognized marital problems and/or depression that were present before the care of a chronically ill child was demanded often become intensified. Moreove...

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Parenting Your Chronically Ill Child

The Effects of Chronically Ill Children on Marriage, Part 2 A number of studies have investigated the effects of a chronically ill child on marital satisfaction, with some indicating overwhelmingly negative reactions. In my previous article, I discussed some of the ways in which couples, together with their families, can cope with the stress, role assignments, perceptions, and depression related to the care of an ill child. In this article, I continue the discussion by looking at how caring for a chronically ill child affects mothers and fathers respectively.

Underlying Marital Problems

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The Effects of Chronically Ill Children on Marriage

Part 1 in a 3-Part Series Chronically Ill Children and Marriage A number of studies have investigated the effects of a chronically ill child on marital satisfaction, with some indicating overwhelmingly negative reactions. In this article, I address some ways in which couples, together with their families, can cope with the stress, role assignments, perceptions, and depression related to the care of an ill child.

The Exposure of Underlying Marital Problems

Unresolved, untreated, or unrecognized marital problems and/or depression that were present before the care of a chronically ill child became necessary are often intensified. Studies found that more women expressed general dissatisfaction with their marriag...

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What Does Research Tell Us About Self-Esteem?

How we view ourselves can have an important influence on our well-being. Research studies into low self-esteem (LSE) and high self-esteem (HSE) have been conducted in order to investigate how people with low and high self-esteem respond and what impact this has on their lives. In this article, I discuss some of the conclusions that are drawn by these studies.

Emotional Responses in Individuals with Low Self-Esteem

Some individuals with LSE have been shown to experience aggression and hostility (Rosenbaum & Stanners, 1961), anxiety, assertiveness, risk taking, locus of control (Crandall, 1973), poorer social skills (Berger, 1955), and reduced initia...

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